The wisdom of the elders is infinite; they just need us to be willing to listen carefully to their lives and their life stories, to be willing to appreciate the wisdom that only the years allow us to acquire, counsel us based on their own experience, their triumphs and their defeats. who, because of their variety and differences, are very rich.
There is no life without difficulty, no life without a moment of happiness.
- Life has its nuances.
- Not everything is black or white; there are actually few things that are like this.
- And when you hear their stories you realize.
- If you pay attention to it you will discover how different experiences build a life.
- A life where the key moments and unforgettable moments are those that will mark our personality and build our life story.
- Moments and moments related to love and family or even something as inevitable as death.
Working in a home care service for the elderly has allowed me to learn many stories of consumers and their families. It gave me the opportunity to listen to them, understand them and also immerse myself in their affection and, of course, in their wisdom, the wisdom of the elders.
“Getting old is like climbing a big mountain; as you climb the forces diminish, but the gaze is freer, the view wider and more serene. . . Ingmar Bergman?
Advice on love and the importance of choosing your life partner well is part of the wisdom of the elderly, as many say, especially as many women say: sooner or later children will leave home, it is inevitable. This output can leave a gap by causing major changes in family dynamics.
Some parents may have empty nest syndrome, at that time, when the children are no longer at home and the person retires, they have more free time and much of that time is shared with the loving partner, so it is advisable to have a good relationship, get along with their spouse. Otherwise, loneliness hurts despite the presence of the couple.
On the contrary, talking to the elders helps you believe more than ever in love, couples that last more than thirty, forty, fifty, even sixty years together, overcoming difficulties of all kinds, in large teams.
Widows or widowers who, with great sadness, miss their spouse. You remember with love and gratitude, remembering small and great details like the grandfather or mother he was, his jokes, his afitions, how he liked to go to the country or play. with your grandchildren?
Others have to separate from their partner throughout their life, in some cases, from the love of their life, when one of them enters a nursing home and the other stays home alone, the vast majority visit their partner almost all the days. it doesn’t matter what illness you have or are able to speak or remember.
“Age doesn’t protect you from love, but does love, to some extent, protect you from age?Jeanne Moreau?”
Loneliness is the setting for the sadness felt by many older people. Knowing loneliness is also part of your wisdom. Loneliness they sometimes feel so as not to want to disturb, because they have left family, or because they have no or have no relatives or friends.
There are stories of all kinds. Many children don’t want to know anything about their parents, with or without reason, it’s not me who will judge them, but I suspect that if some older people could go back in time, they would do things differently.
When we are young, we never think that we will ever be old and that our actions today can have serious consequences tomorrow. Not treating people well, not fighting in relationships with others, can isolate us from the human being, society and even the most loved ones.
We all need others because, after all, we are social animals, having associations or knowing how to find them at any age is important, it is an excellent remedy against loneliness, some of these afitions will serve to be in company and others. , on the contrary, being alone, but in any case, help to socialize.
This is the case of an 85-year-old client who received a tablet as a gift from her grandchildren. In it, play different games, such as the famous Candy Crush. Thanks to this new relationship, he spends distracted hours, while training the mind and also promoting emotional bond with his grandchildren.
“It’s sad to be old, but it’s good to grow up. ” Brigitte Bardot?
Valuing the importance of the family is part of the wisdom of the elders. How important the family is to those who have it and to those who are not so lucky!It’s not just children that are important; many nephews take care of their uncles and aunts as if they were their own parents, take care of them and this is noticeable when you listen to them.
“As I get older, I realize that what I like most is a good heart. “Alice Walker?
The family was, is and will be important. Family memories are always precious, both those lived and those that are still created when you receive visits from children and grandchildren or other family members, count many anecdotes, some recent and others less current, I remember many conversations that impressed me:
Learning to accept death as part of life is a fundamental pillar of the wisdom of the elderly, in fact, they accept that death is near, but they still live, in fact, they appreciate much more than they have at their fingertips, highlighting in their history the moments when they ceased to be dwarves to become giants.
However, it is often more difficult to accept other types of losses, such as the deterioration of physical and mental faculties, or the loss of loved ones, such as friends and family.
The family, as in childhood, happens to occupy the most important place, however, now it is not the parents, but the children, who attract all your attention, most sleep better or worse depending on how they imagine their future, how they they feel they have strong, ingrained and stable support, which allows them to grow.
Gratitude is part of the wisdom of the elderly. They are grateful for the life they have had, understanding that their path has been long and that the fact that their heart continues to beat is a gift. Do not complain or repent of difficulties; they understand that, thanks to them, they are what they are, and that it is a fascinating dialectic between luck and will that has led them to where they are.
They recall that work humanizes us, constituting the carpet on which we develop many of our skills, however, we have made mistakes in making them the center of our lives, often the elderly regret the moments when they fell into this temptation, not those who abandoned these proposals to share their time with family and friends.
They also keep the feeling of utility that work provides, at this point I remember the case of a person over 80 years old who enrolled in painting classes without ever having painted anything, now he presents paintings to the whole family and does so with a sense unmatched. of power and will to generate value, despite and through their years.
“And in the end, it’s not the years of your life that matter. Is life in your years?Abraham Lincoln?”
Many older people enjoy reading and their family environment has fostered their interest in culture, despite difficulties. They read newspapers and books of all kinds, from the most classic books to the most recent essays. They look for content that they like and formats that they like. they are better suited to your physical abilities, including your level of vision.
What can we learn if we listen carefully to the elderly?They have much to teach us about life, both from their experiences and from how they live it today.
Are the elders left over for those who want to hear their stories full of strength and courage, smiles and tears, sun and rain?Their stories are full of anecdotes of all kinds, happy and not so happy, even sad moments. Best of all? They can’t wait to share them.