Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (ODO) is a type of anxiety disorder that “manipulates” the thoughts, emotions, and behaviors of people with the disorder. One of the symptoms that most limits these people’s lives is feeling compelled to constantly repeat the same words, thoughts or actions to alleviate the discomfort generated by their reasoning and emotions.
But what are obsessions? They are ideas, thoughts, images or impulses that are recurrent, persistent or absurd, involuntary or selfish (unpleasant and intrusive), are not excessive concerns about real problems, but fears that arise from anticipated and unlikely problems. cause great discomfort to the person, although they are able to recognize that these ideas are an exclusive product of their mind.
- In most clinical cases.
- It has been observed that the person may give up fighting this obsession.
- Because the struggle to get it out of the mind can become difficult.
The other term involved in the definition of disorder is coercion, coercion should be understood as repetitive behavior that is performed in response to an obsession, according to certain rules or in a stereotypical way, it does not pursue an end in itself, but is intended to produce or prevent certain situations or emotional states. Solve? It is not a rational solution (open and close the car several times) or it can be rational, but clearly disproportionate (wash your hands frequently).
Let’s illustrate the connection that exists in obsession-compulsion. A person with obsessive-compulsive disorder drives and suddenly thinks something serious can happen to his family. He knows that fear is a product of his mind, but he feels the need to open and close the car window three times to “prevent something. “evil for happening. ” It is an irrational thought; however, the compulsive impulse associated with resistance determines that it does. The act is not pleasurable for that person, but the truth is that it is effective at that time to reduce their anxiety.
Love and lack of love are very deep feelings that all or almost all of us experience or try to live, however little or nothing is said about how people with obsessive compulsive disorder can experience love and not love.
In this sense, let us think that these feelings are a basic pillar of human emotional experience. While there is no way to describe or theorize such a unique sentimental experience, the fact that a person shares his affections with the world, raising his problem. to the test, helps us approach them and validate their experiences.
This should not be easy for the person with ONAC or his partner, as evidenced by Neil Hilborn, an American writer and poet with ONAC, who wanted to express the process of infatuation of his mind, as well as what the breakup meant. to him and the creation of his daily obsessions and compulsions.
In this article, we will share the transcription of the poem, which is really exciting.
The first time I saw her?
Everything in my head was silent.
All the tics, all the images that went through my head just disappeared.
When you have an obsessive-compulsive disorder, you never have moments of true peace of mind.
Even in bed, I think
Did I close the doors? Yes.
Did I wash my hands? Yes.
Did I close the doors? Yes
Did I wash my hands? Yes.
But when I saw her, all I could think about was the curve of her lips.
Or the eyelashes on your face
on the lashes on your face
in the eyelashes on your face?
I knew I’d have to talk to him
I asked him out six times in 30 seconds.
She said yes after the third time
but none of them seemed right to me, so I had to keep asking
When we first met,
I spent more time organizing my food by color than eating or talking to him.
But she loved it
She loved that I had to kiss her sixteen times to say goodbye or twenty-four if it was Wednesday.
He loved that it took me forever to get home, because there were so many cracks on the sidewalk.
When we moved in together, she said she felt safe
no one would ever steal from us, because he had closed the door eighteen times.
He always looked at his mouth when he spoke.
When she spoke
When she spoke.
When she spoke.
When she spoke
When he said he loved me, his mouth curved a little in the corner.
At night he would lie in bed and watch me turn off all the lights and turn them on.
Turn them off and on, turn them off and on, turn them off and on, turn them on, turn them off and on and on,
Turn them off and on
He closed his eyes and imagined that days and nights passed by him.
Some mornings, when I was going to start kissing her to say goodbye, she had just left, because
I was delaying her to work
When I stopped at the cracks on the sidewalk, did he keep walking?
When he said he loved me, his mouth was a straight line.
He told me it was taking too long
Last week, she started sleeping at her mother’s house.
She told me that I shouldn’t have let her make me so fond of her, that it was all a mistake,
But how could it be a mistake if I don’t need to wash my hands after touching it?
Love is not a mistake, and it kills me that it can get away with it and I can’t.
I can’t.
I can’t go out looking for someone new, because I always think about her.
Usually, when I get obsessed with something, I see germs sneaking out of my skin.
I’m surprised at an endless succession of cars
And that was the first beautiful thing I ever had.
I want to wake up every morning thinking about how he handles the steering wheel.
How the shower register transforms like opening a safe
On how to put out the candles
how the candles go out
how the candles go out
how the candles go out
how it blows
Now all I think about is who kisses her
And I can’t breathe, because he only kisses you once!He doesn’t care if it’s perfect!
Do I want you to come back so desperately?
I’ll leave the door open
I’ll leave the lights on.
Author: Neil Hilborn
People living with a person with obsessive-compulsive disorder should understand that obsessions and compulsions are beyond the control of the affected person. A person with ODO may or may not be aware of the irrationality of their thoughts and actions, but cannot control them without the help of an expert.
The person should not be judged or tried to avoid performing the rituals, as this will create more tension and open an even greater wound. The person cannot be persuaded not to think or act in a certain way; the person must be welcomed with patience and affection.
Don’t be part of the rituals. Support should be a part of everyday life, without hiding or letting passive forms of communication eliminate understanding and acceptance. There are authors who tell us about negotiating limits with the person with OCD, in the following way: “Because I love you, I refuse to participate in harmful behaviors”; “I know it’s difficult and it might bother you, but will it be better if I don’t do this ritual for you?”; The doctor told me not to participate, he knows what he is talking about and we decided to trust his opinion. “
Finally, it is worth noting the need to seek psychological and psychiatric assistance specialized in the treatment of ODO, for example, both the affected and those around him must have the support of a qualified professional to help him control the situation and improve daily life.