It is common for loneliness to be considered negative and harmful, it is often associated with sadness and despair, yet loneliness has a positive and even necessary face, which often goes unnoticed, hidden behind the negative shadow of its fateful concept.
Italian writer Carlos Dossi said: “Why is loneliness generally avoided? Why are there so few who find company in themselves? This is because loneliness is probably the best way to get closer to ourselves. It is lonely when we are alone, with only the company of our thoughts, that we are able to know each other, to know how to appreciate our own company.
- When we are with other people.
- The most common thing is that we focus our attention on their presence.
- On the dialogues we establish with them.
- In this way we ignore many things that do not usually go unnoticed when we are alone.
- We look at what surrounds us.
- Pay more attention to detail.
- Such as landscapes.
- Houses.
- People we know.
- Etc.
Learning to live with yourself and enjoy your own business is a very important exercise to know you as a person, this act will give you strength, self-esteem and teach you to respect your own being.
Charles Baudelaire said: “He who does not know how to populate his loneliness will not know how to be alone in a crowd either. “If we don’t know how to control loneliness, he’ll dominate us. Therefore, the ideal is to have moments of solitude, to get to know each other and move away from the hustle and bustle that is always in the company of someone, in this way we will strengthen ourselves as people and grow as people.
Creativity develops mainly in solitude, a musician who cannot spend time alone will never be able to find in his mind the notes he wants to represent in his music, this person will never be able to compose, because the creative process almost always develops. in the company of no one. German novelist and poet Goethe said of loneliness: “Talent improves in loneliness, character in the hustle and bustle of the world. “
As you can see, many intellectuals have talked about the positive side of loneliness and the benefits it can offer the individual, of course, negative connotations of loneliness can be serious and harmful, and depending on the situation, it can become dangerous. However, it is also essential to talk about the benefits it offers to those who are alone and the importance of being able to tolerate loneliness.
Finally, another appointment; This time by Brazilian writer Paulo Coelho, who also summarizes what we were talking about loneliness:
“A warrior of light uses loneliness, but is not used by it?”