This is called the comfort zone, that set of circumstances to which we passively adapt and therefore exercise a minimum of demand, although this apparently gives us peace, what the comfort zone offers is a false peace, because life is dynamic and faster. or later we will have to face change, even if we resist.
The most problematic thing is that the comfort zone is not a space to develop the ability to adapt to the new, but quite the opposite. The more we repeat routines and move only on familiar terrain, the harder it will be to visualize and process variations.
- That is why they say that the comfort zone generates a false peace.
- It is not the tranquility of those who trust each other.
- But that of those who have the fantasy of controlling everything.
- When leaving this comfort zone.
- The supposed peace disappears and becomes insecure and anxious.
- Peace of mind in this case does not depend on the person.
- But on the stability of the circumstances.
- Which is why it is so fragile.
“The only way to discover the limits of what is possible is to venture a little further, into the impossible” – Arthur Clarke-
One of the most disturbing aspects of the comfort zone is that it is built on fear. What the person who settles in the context of the circumstances that are familiar to him is first and foremos say safety. It wants to minimize uncertainty and therefore delimits subjective territory and does not abandon it.
The comfort zone is configured from fear, so the goal of not leaving is also dictated by fear, everything that is not in this known territory is perceived as a threat, the new, the different and the unknown are treated as threats. the peace you feel ends when something unexpected happens.
Because of this latent presence of fear, many believe that the comfort zone is actually a danger zone, and it really is a danger zone, because whoever settles there becomes progressively vulnerable, because their safety and tranquility depend exclusively on external factors, which can change at any time.
In addition to all of the above, those who stay in their comfort zone do not even feel completely relaxed about being there, even if there are no changes, they are so dependent on certain circumstances that it is not uncommon for them to experience episodes of high anxiety and false beliefs, although they are not at risk, fantasize about the problems that may arise, which causes distress and puts an end to the false peace that is supposed to prevail.
A high price is also paid when someone refuses to cross the comfort zone barrier. The most common example is an employee who hates work but doesn’t give up on anything in this world. It is certainly not comforting to live doing something that does not ‘ However, in some cases, the fear of facing something new and uncertain is greater.
Those who stay in the comfort zone are no longer peaceful or happier. What they do is they create a hiding place to deal with fear. With this, they do not resolve their insecurities; on the contrary, they maximize their intensity.
The only way to overcome fears is to face them, we all know it, although sometimes we try to ignore it, dealing with fear is not pleasant, at least in the beginning, it is something that takes us to our own limits and that, at first, generates sensations that are not pleasant at all. We feel fear, for a time, at its greatest intensity.
Basically being in the comfort zone is a way of declaring that you feel incapable of many things, it is true that there are many things that we cannot do, because reality imposes limits on us, we cannot be immortal or prevent situations that make us suffer. However, we can find a way to get back to balance.
When we can reasonably trust ourselves, fears return to their true dimension, there is also a sense of tranquility that is not compared to this false peace of the comfort zone, but to a better expectation of our own performance. this confidence to leave our lives as we want, rather than reduce it to a corner that protects us, but also imprisons us.