Love grows and changes more strongly when accompanied by a dose, large or small, of impossibility, passions are never as hot as when they are crossed by a prohibition, and if it must be kept secret, that is fine. Is there a dangerous spell on clandestine love?
But just as the insect that flies around the burning flame sometimes ends up burning, the forbidden loves can also end badly, sometimes they simply follow a romantic farewell, but in most cases they leave some of those involved with great injuries. that take time to arrive. heal.
- If a love is going to remain secret is usually because behind it there is a very powerful reason.
- Most of the time.
- Not to say.
- What is behind it is a third with which there is a loving commitment.
- Clandestine love is usually the love in which there are at least three people involved.
- Sometimes four.
- Sometimes more.
An earlier commitment is not the only reason love has become clandestine. Sometimes there is some convenience, as with celebrities who have to keep their relationships hidden so as not to lose followers. Sometimes there are other types of pressures, family, professional or social, that demand secrecy in the relationship.
This kind of love, in any case, is illegal because it is forbidden in a certain way. And it is precisely this element of prohibition that adds a special touch to these ailments. The relationship cannot develop in a “normal” way. It is necessary to inaugurate a kind of “parallel life” to maintain this love.
Any prohibition is, at the same time, an invitation. This is because in the human mind the prohibition activates desire. Not interested in a movie anymore if you know it’s been banned in several countries?Don’t you look more closely at a door that says “Forbidden to pass?”Don’t you want to be one of those who can succeed?
The forbidden has a natural appeal because it reveals, in the foreground, something that is not, and it is precisely this lack (which becomes evident with prohibition) that gives rise to desire, that is why prohibition and desire are the face and crown of the same coin.
When it comes to love, things become even more effervescent, the ban becomes fuel for the flame, even if it is very shy at first, the barriers become stimuli and the risks end up being seen as desirable challenges, the very danger of the relationship is passionate but eye!Maybe playing so much with fire consumes us.
The first danger facing clandestine love is, of course, that it is discovered, it is assumed that if it is hidden it is because the consequences of its revelation can be very serious, nothing is hidden between heaven and earth and there are very few cases in which the truth remains secret for a long time.
Of course, many lovers also experience these revelations with some emotion. They betray their engagement to their partner, but unconsciously want to be “caught red-handed. “All this is part of a complicated game to test the limit of the official couple. or minimize it to adjust the accounts that all relationships have pending to a greater or lesser degree.
The second great danger is to play, literally, with your own feelings and those of others. In the charm of risk can be the true and only cause of the relationship. It is not love that connects them, but the intention to challenge the forbidden. The problem is that in this game almost everyone involved is hurt.
Finally, the danger of clandestine love is that when it comes time for truth, they do not allow us to grow up or monetize our lives, they end up being chapters in which we behave like children who do not want to obey. But when everything is in sight, what is left to have tried the decoy of the forbidden?And a lot of time wasted on this apparent pleasure.