Sometimes we find ourselves shrouded in indefinite sadness, silently, with our foreheads glued to the window of a window and the soul in our pockets. We’re not sure what caused this emotional state, but we feel like we won’t be able to. face this day in the spirit of always.
What causes these kinds of situations? We are not talking about a state of depression, one thing does not always have to do with the other, we mean only those days when the thermometer of our mood descends below existential zero, these are moments when hope does not appear, when we become slaves to our own routines and unknowns of our hopes.
- “We cannot prevent the birds of sadness from flying over our heads.
- But we can prevent them from nesting in our hair.
- -Chinese proverb-.
One idea is obvious: sadness is a messenger that you have to understand, but never a pair of shoes to wear definitively, however, what is happening today is that you have no right to be sad, there is no place for this emotion that acts. as a channel for the brain itself. Are we almost obligated?Don’t listen to it and pretend everything’s okay, winning the Oscar for best performance of the year, proving that we’re safe from frustration and sadness.
However, no one can keep this armor, this impregnable armor for long. Although we all have access to all kinds of information, be it books or publications, we still maintain the idea that sadness is nothing more than a pathological thing.
It is necessary to put an end to false myths once and for all because this emotion is something that is inherent to us as human beings, something that we must understand and that cannot be cured by the typical phrase “Cheer up, that life is beautiful Sadness has its own layers, those that build a particular realm that we talk about next.
Sadness always manifests itself in a loss of energy, we have not achieved that discouragement and immobility that manifests itself with depression, it is somewhat lighter, more subtle, we feel a need for inner withdrawal that is usually accompanied by an indefinable feeling of apathy and fatigue.
This physical sensation responds, in fact, to an alert mechanism in the brain itself: it forces us to move away from the stimuli of our own environment to connect with our interior, if we find out in this scenario what bothers us, what concerns us, that bothers us
Bernard Thierry is a biologist and physiologist who has been studying this type of negative emotion for years. According to him, sadness causes us a small state of “hibernation. “
This puts us on hold, relaxes us in that immobility and introspection so characteristic that we can reflect on a particular fact. In addition, the brain ensures that we do not lose all our energies in tasks that, at the moment, have no priority.
The key is to solve this discomfort, to concentrate on oneself, however, as we already know, we do not always obey this instinct for conservation, we ignore it and we cling to our day-to-day life as if nothing.
Many psychologists don’t want to describe sadness as “negative emotion. “In our almost obsessive fixation to label any behavior or psychological phenomenon, we lose sight of this kind of reality.
The most appropriate phrase is very simple: “tell me what you need”. Something like this will force the person before us to think about the root of their problem to deepen their real needs.
Sadness has a strange taste, oscillating between desire and melancholy, is the absence of something, we feel so devastated by conflicting feelings, by voids and un nameless needs, that in an instant we despair.
“He who has sadness in his heart can hardly disguise it. “-Ibulo-
It is often said that this emotion is the most refined sensibility of the human being, one that invites many to be more creative, to approach art, music or writing to channel all these mixed feelings.
However, and this is good to remember, although sadness inspires the artist’s heart, no one can live permanently in this realm of desires, melancholy and emptiness where emotional immaturity lives alone.
At the highest level of Abraham Maslow’s needs is self-realization
Understanding one’s emotions and launching themselves as good managers of our universes is a fundamental contribution to our psychological growth, so it is important to stop associating sadness with terms such as fragility or vulnerability.
Because behind every person who identifies and confronts his sadness hides a true hero.
Images courtesy of Amanda Clark.