Have you ever stopped to think about how many friends you have? Are your friends good enough to be considered “real friends”? In other words, do we have a lot of real friends or just a lot of acquaintances or people we sympathize with? ?
The truth is, we abused the word “friend” a lot. Many of us enjoy the good times with a lot of people, but that doesn’t mean we’re our friends.
- Friendship is much more than sharing good times.
- In fact.
- Few people care about you and won’t be by your side in difficult times.
Here we will talk about the five qualities that define a true friend, in this way we will be more aware of who they are and the scope of the word friendship.
1- Listen without judgment. People tend to help others by sharing their feelings and opinions, often in excess. Sometimes we overreact to criticism.
The poorly managed ego leads us to judge negatively our friends, family or partner.
These vicious criticisms hurt the person seeking support and understanding.
When we need someone to listen to us, we look for a friend, our family, our partner. Listening to the other is an act of generosity; never say “should” or “should. “
A true friend helps and supports without expecting anything in return. Listening means understanding the meaning of the message and understanding its context.
Empathy can be defined as a feeling that puts us in the place of the other, in this case our friend, even if we do not live the same situation, we feel the suffering of the other, the true friend can listen in silence, with great affection, affection and attention.
Things we often don’t notice, a true friend will show them to us delicately.
2- Discussions do not matter. Friends argue, too. We often find constructive criticism of an idea or opinion different from ours offensive. When we talk about the word “discuss” we are talking about a discussion with valid arguments from both sides until a positive solution or ending is reached.
Arguing is not fighting. In fact, it is a healthy behavior and often necessary in our personal relationships. When you talk to friends, only you can decide whether this discussion is important or not. Real friends understand the meaning of an argument and are not caught up in unnecessary details. .
3- They care about you. At one point in your life you’ve faced the question: do my friends only show up when they need me?When you think of one of your friends, trust ends and the relationship tightens.
We know that hypocrisy manifests itself on sporadic occasions or that it can be a constant attitude, many people claim to have beliefs, opinions, qualities or ideals that they do not have or do not practice, the hypocritical friend demonstrates qualities and feelings that I do not really have. This type of relationship can lead to emotional distress and suffering.
Fortunately, there are real friends who love us unconditionally, care about us and are always willing to help us, care about our problems and support us without asking for anything in return.
4- They turn their defects into virtues. None of us are perfect and many people around us do not accept our faults and believe that their mission in life is to show us our faults. Those flaws that make us so unique?
But on the other hand, you’re lucky enough to have people next to you who don’t look at your flaws, encourage you and focus on your qualities, they’re true friends.
5- They are always close to you. Neither personal differences and discussions nor time and distance keep true friends at bay.
You can always count on them in the most difficult moments, you will always have their unconditional support, and most importantly, they want to participate in your life as essential partners.
Original text in Spanish by Paula Daaz