Do I live in Sao Paulo? SP and I don’t know if it’s right here, but it’s become a cultural feature of Paulistano always being in a hurry, running from one appointment to another, always busy with the program loaded with things to do!Sleep is made up of people who never stop!
It was in this environment that I grew up and that is where I educate my nine-year-old son, I wrote this article in July / 2016 and, like many children, it is at school recess, today one of my concerns is to teach you to make the most of your free time. Yes, he studies full-time and on Saturdays takes English classes, do you have responsibilities at home, such as making the bed, separating clothes, cleaning your room, helping to fold and fixing family clothes?But he’s a kid and he needs to play and interact like a kid!I have not always had this perception of the importance of taking advantage of pause moments, acceleration time and rest time. , Appreciation, practice and teaching.
- In this automatic way of life? Which one are we subjected to?What also extends between relationships.
- Work and leisure?There is a big risk: seeing things as trivial or a waste of time like reading a book without haste.
- Meeting with friends.
- Eating good made and healthy food without looking at your watch/cell phone.
- Sleeping when needed.
- Taking care of your health or even going to this dance class.
- These little things that don’t add anything to your resume.
- But do great good to Your soul!And detail: without having to post photos about it to show others that you’re happy!.
Is the culture of haste a part of your life?How many times have you stopped to wonder why you lead the busy life you lead?Do your behaviors correspond to what you take for granted or simply because everyone around you is doing it?Are you rushing to succeed before age 30, buying a car, a house, getting married, having children and an MBA before you’re 35?
When did you stop worrying about what really made sense to you, whether in terms of accomplishments or small daily pleasures?When did you start comparing yourself to your peers and accusing him of being the same age, but not the same things?
In some social circles, it almost became an obligation to always be busy, work every day until very late, take out-of-hours classes and perform other tasks on weekends/holidays. Does that make you look like someone very important?(Will?)
(PAUSE)
I recently saw a national film called “We Are Together. “A young resident physician played by actress Leandra Leal, with a promising and dreamy career as a surgeon, discovers that she has a malignant brain tumor. She tries to continue her life normally, but the aggravation of the disease disrupts her plans, forcing her to seek support to take care of her health and quality of life, the problem is that when you look at your personal life for emotional support, you no longer have a strong and true relationship There is no one to tell her diagnosis. Thus, she realizes that it is not the people who have left her, but for busy life, in a way, it is she who has locked herself in a shallow world, preventing new approaches.
What I mean by this illustration is to show that life has many aspects to consider.
As much as you insist, there are problems that do not work in a hurry, but on the contrary, arise only from love, patience, calm, the presence of the soul.
It is always important to often ask yourself what your priorities are in life and whether the daily life you live meets or exceeds these priorities.
As I said at the beginning, one of my concerns is to teach my child the balance between responsibilities and breaks to engage in more enjoyable things. On the first day of the vacation I asked him to write a list of what he would like to do. , things I didn’t appreciate when I was in class. Of the 16 items you quickly listed, 7 include family activities. The rest are simple daily pleasures that do not include the purchase of new or useless toys. I learn and surprise myself every day. with him about the simplicity of things and how adults complicate the obvious over and over again.
Starting with work. Being too busy doesn’t mean being productive. Look what he does, how he does it, why he does it, for whom he does it and what is the smartest and least masculine way to get results. and identify what can be optimized. Can this reorganization save time, energy, health, money?
Trying to manage everything, accumulate tasks, not take a vacation, be very perfectionist, a perfectly exemplary person, who is not allowed to mistake or disappoint others, who never says?it’s a shortcut to frustration.
If you don’t learn to say no, what you don’t want, there’ll never be time to say, yes, what you love, what matters most in your life, you’re at risk of occupying your life. by yourself, starting to use you as an extension of time, your arms and legs. You will always end up being in charge of meeting the needs, expectations and demands of others, over-the-book.
There are people who can’t delegate because they think no one will do this activity as well as they do!
Someone else may not even get involved in a task in the same way as you, but it’s important to consider which activities have the greatest and least impact on your life. For example: no one can exercise for you, but someone can take the car for you. You!
Having a simple life does not mean having an empty life, this means filling it with the essentials to survive and the minimum necessary to be happy, this means not filling life with unnecessary things and behaviors that are more likely to impress others and increase the cost of living.
Start with basic survival needs, such as eating properly, drinking water, going to the bathroom, sleeping, living well?One thing I learned very hard is that I first have to take care of myself (physically, emotionally, and spiritually) to be well. , to be able to work and help others in what they need.
List your priorities and see how your routine can be adjusted to meet them.
Where do you think you’re wasting your time?An addiction?Habit to change?A fear that paralyzes you?What would this be like to be an effective way to free up this space?From your schedule?
Now I would like to hear from you: what have you done not to fall into the trap of haste and “lack of time”?