Hysterical represents a person, usually a man, deeply attracted to hysterical women. Among many other traits, these women have two that seduce these men. The first is its appeal, its seductive appearance. The second is a precarious and vulnerable personality, under these external traits there is a whole psychological structure.
The main characteristic of hysterical is its chivalrous treatment and its attentive attitude towards the hysterical who “seduce” it. It is elegant and incorporates a very defined male posture. It is true that he is deeply impressed by passive and weak women. women who allow you to “improve your masculinity. “
- The hysterophile is.
- In general.
- A seemingly confident and confident man who exudes a certain halo of power.
- Who in principle shows no weakness or difficulty.
- In fact.
- It is very common for them to show their professional success or their romantic conquests.
- It is a way to reaffirm your worth and try to get women to recognize you.
“Sometimes I think that hysteria is nothing more than the conspiracy of the unconscious, which tries to aseptically reproduce the physical state of sexual arousal without pleasure, accompanying it with suffering. -Yukio Mishima-
Hysteria and hysteria are neurotically complete. He wants to be a support for his weakness and she wants him to be. She feels like a princess who needs to be saved. He wants to play as the walking knight who saves her. At least that’s what happens at first, over time they will form a mutable, unstable and definitely meaningless union.
Sooner rather than later, symptoms of a latent conflict appear in this type of union. The hysterophile mask falls relatively fast. It is not that he wanted to cheat, or that he deliberately adopted this charade; indeed, he believed and tried to be his wife’s traveling knight.
However, the security it seems to show is collapsing with some speed, doubts arise about you. Insecurity, you don’t want to be the strong part of the relationship anymore. He begins to feel fragile and needs to protect himself from hysteria. This is an imperative need that must be addressed urgently.
The hysterical still wants a Prince Charming. She did not seduced a man to show signs of weakness and give up his role of protection and care of her, so when the hysterical begins to break, she does not accept him and loses his admiration for this faded Prince Charming, because this traveling gentleman who now appears as someone who cannot with the weight of his own armor.
The hysterical soon goes from the lack of admiration for the hysterical to an absolute contempt; man begins to feel ashamed that he cannot embody his wife’s ideal; it does not seem legitimate to be fragile while protection is needed; the situation becomes difficult and, one way or another, both are frustrated and suffer.
The following is the most representative. Hysterical develops a deaf hatred and feels deceived. She feels deceived, wants to reactivate this man who initially seemed to see her partner and, for that, she can choose a cruel and unhealthy path, begins to publicly ridicule her partner, showing her weaknesses. Is that a way to claim “justice” for her? However, the hysterophile learns to assume the role of “martyr”.
This kind of neurotic relationship never has a happy ending. It usually ends up riddled with abuse, on both sides. The hysterophile’s fantasy is to be the ideal man for women. He really wants to be, but he can’t because he’s a human being pierced by imperfection, dissatisfaction and desire.
On the other hand, what the hysterical woman wants is to find the ideal man, the hysterophile, in the beginning, embodies him. However, when he discovers that he, in short, is not a Prince Charming, a conflict arises, he does not want to admit that he has been associated with an imperfect man, who can also be fragile and that he has only ideals like fantasies. have created among themselves.
It is common for abuse to be imposed where ideals and fantasies were, and it is almost always reciprocal. Mutual is also the alternation of the role of victim and victim, both feel cheated and both affirm that the other is the source of their suffering, the same happens with neurotic relationships.