We generally listen to or read how important it is to maintain good communication, whether in the work, family, social context or in a romantic relationship, but do we take into account everything that the communication process encompasses?
We don’t always find the right words, how to make people understand what we want to convey; It is very difficult to convert what we think and feel into words, all this often ends up being a challenge. It is even sometimes considered that it is not us, but our interlocutor who places a barrier that prevents the transmission of our message.
- We do not know all the material that is part of our communication processes.
- We forget the importance of communicating clearly and easily with others.
- Without thinking about the impact that our words and actions can have.
We assume, take this for granted, create personal assumptions about events or people, over-understand, defame, add or remove details about the information that has come to us, etc. But what’s our communication like?
We are like sculptors, who create or destroy the information they transmit or receive, depending on their characteristics, experiences and peculiarities, we must consider that human beings create realities through their language.
When a person tries to convey an image, a feeling, a concept or an idea, the caller probably doesn’t get exactly the same thing, have you thought about it?The cause of the vast majority of disagreements is when people think they are talking about the same thing, but their conception is totally different.
Couples who talk about love, but who have different views People who share a friendship, each with very different characteristics Did you ever think that when you talk or argue with someone, you can have different views or meanings about what you don’t?Work?
When you talk to others, the word may be the same, but the content may be completely different, the surface and depth may not contain the reaction you’re considering, it’s necessary to consider what we say and how we do it. , in order to obtain a more accurate map of our communication with others.
When we have a conversation with someone else, it’s critical to ask them what you’re talking about.
What is love to you?What does it mean to be loyal or boring?And in the same way, we can also explain how we see it, otherwise we will think that the other shares our world view, which thinks like us, and that would be a real coincidence, right?
Would we save ourselves many conflicts and misunderstandings if, instead of assuming, we asked our interlocutor what he meant by his idea or thinking?
Everyone has their education, experiences, training and personal characteristics on their backs, so we can’t always share similar opinions or feelings, these are the lenses with which we feel, interpret, think and act in the world and each of us uses a different degree.
Why not think of what we are communicating as if it were a story?, what I communicate is like a story, the facts lived by my experience, a version?And what you understand is another version, based on its characteristics. me, but depending on your peculiarities, if you can understand me.
What you may not have realized is that sometimes we say something to someone and that person understands something else, does it end up conveying exactly the same thing as us?, each person determines what is important based on their experiences, so each person is responsible for communicating their own story.
When we say the other one’s not right, what we’re actually expressing is that he doesn’t think like us, does he?Think?