Head office occupies, on average, 10 hours today. More than ever, we send text messages and make video calls, so we may be saturated. The truth is that we do not pay attention to the importance of setting limits during quarantine.
Jane Wilde Hawking wrote in her book Voyage to Infinity that when people fight fate, all that matters is protecting survival. We can certainly apply that phrase to the current context.
- But within these survival capsules that are our homes.
- We are also obliged to protect another precious dimension: well-being.
During these weeks of kidnapping we live and learn many things, each of us continues to deal with the situation as much as we can, with more or less confidence.
Some are rediscovered in a more relaxed, intimate and welcoming life; others struggle with anxiety. So, whatever our personal reality, there will be a time when we will have to establish a barrier of containment in the face of certain dynamics.
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We all know that in life self-affirmation and the imposition of limits in certain situations are guarantees of peace and mental balance, yet who imagines that in the current context of detention, this would also be necessary?
Being isolated for much of the day we hoped to enjoy every connection with our friends and family through technology, we also thought that the home office would offer a better quality of life, allowing us to choose our schedules to reconcile them with family life. .
However, in this new scenario, we have found that day-to-day life at home is also not easy, which puts us in situations that we need to start regulating in a different way.
Telecommunications companies say the next-generation connection starts at 9:00 a. m. , which is when more people are online.
On average, hours of work in the home office can last ten hours instead of eight. Even more surprisingly, many people set their working hours between midnight and 3 a. m.
The reason is simple: they can’t concentrate during the day or have no choice but to work during the hours when children sleep.
On the other hand, we have noticed many shortcomings and problems in the field of distance education, there are teachers who simply send exercises without giving online courses, evaluation systems are not always the most effective, to this we add the technological factor : not all children have their own computer or even a good internet connection.
Putting limits during detention, in this case, is knowing how to organize, good time management in the home office allows us not only to be more productive, but also to avoid stress.
As for online education, it is also advisable to put a limit on what can and cannot be achieved.
In most cases, parents are overloaded by their children’s classes, this is a problem that we need to evaluate and solve.
Setting limits during quarantine also means that others should understand that we are not always available.
There are times when we don’t want to have conversations through Zoom or any other video calling platform, and not because we don’t like that person, but because we want to read a book or do nothing and calm the mind.
Each person has a rhythm and their own needs. Sometimes, almost without realizing it, we spend hours writing messages and calling.
All of this is positive, in addition to our daily salvation in the days of confinement, but we all need breaks, time for us, so the definition of limit is also correct in these cases.
The need to set limits during detention also involves self-control. External containment barriers need to be erected, reducing, for example, the amount of information we receive.
In addition to better managing the climate throughout the day and combining the best moments with friends and family to make video calls, we also need to build mental walls.
What does that mean? This means, for example, putting limits on excessive concerns. We must understand that well-being is about being assertive with others, but also with oneself, controlling what is in our hands.
It is true that there are things that are beyond our control and that we face uncertainty and fear every day, however, it is necessary to train the mind so as not to anticipate things that have not yet happened and avoid having ideas that visualize reality. worse and intensify anxiety.
Let’s be clear that taking care of our inner universe is as important as controlling what comes from the outside, well-being is in balance, knowing how to set limits, being clear about what we need most at all times, let’s work on it.