Suffering hides deep in our skin without being seen, it is like a strange tenant who stands in the way and suffocates, but sooner or later we can overcome it, through suffering the soul strengthens, the skin becomes rougher and tanned, marked by infinite invisible scars. .
It is possible that at this stage of life, the skin of your soul already has a map of scars and wounds, through this you have learned that pain and suffering are two very different things, pain is part of existence and appears when we lose What we love. For its part, suffering is the result of not accepting what happens in our lives, because we resist and want things to be different.
? Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. ? -Bouddha-
However, even if it is said that suffering is part of the human being, there are a number of aspects that need to be taken into account, first we do not have to suffer to know what life is, in fact happiness also gives us good lessons.
Secondly, fear of suffering is worse than suffering itself, because it prevents us from living, puts walls and barriers to our right to love and be loved, to make mistakes and to learn from them, are important details that we must always remember. .
Suffering comes as an unexpected guest on a cold winter night, we don’t want to suffer and we decide to run away from it, hide it in the basement and pretend it doesn’t exist, so we lock ourselves in our rusty armor and pretend everything is normal, giving away sweet smiles, while this undesade tenant is still there, grabbing our bitter heart with cold hands.
Like it or not, this negative emotion will persist with its painful burden for a long time, in fact, it has a very clear purpose: to absorb your energy and make you remain silent.
It is curious, but as the molecular biologist Stanislao Bachrach explains, your happiness is not important to the brain, your only goal is your survival, so understanding the roots of your suffering will undoubtedly be an act of personal responsibility, an act of survival.
In psychology we clearly differentiate the real suffering from the imaginary, both dimensions have a negative emotional burden that directly interferes with our quality of life, our emotional balance.
We can use the same techniques to deal with these two types of suffering. Here are some of them.
Believe it or not, we all have the best strategies to deal with the suffering that lies within us. Our brain is biologically prepared to face adversity through very specific mechanisms; strategies that we will then define and help us survive.
In a painless life, the strings of life relax. -Johannes Keepler-
First of all, we must awaken this inner gaze lodged in our minds. Understanding that reality, “your reality”, is nothing more than a personal interpretation of the facts, of which you often become a slave. It’s time to put a filter:
Besides, ours? Undeserved can be reduced as long as we are aware of another aspect: their temporality.
Awaken that courage within you and be able to see suffering as a path, not a wall that imprisons you. Stand up, open your eyes from the inside to see more clearly, knock down all the bricks on these walls and let yourself be happy again.