Do you dare look at your dreams instead of your past?This is the question you have to answer if you want to make a change in your life and focus all your energy on what’s new, rather than wasting it looking back.
Throughout our lives we have undergone many changes, some sudden, some slower and predictable, some painful and other fun, changes that also mean personal transformations that we sometimes resist out of fear, but that we must live to learn and improve.
- One of the things that can affect us most about a change is to stop focusing on our goal.
- How new it expects us and distract us with so many details or aspects that are not as important as the dream we want to achieve.
For example, if you want to change jobs and are determined to do so, your intuition can help you, see what you really want to do, without losing sight of what others are saying or what others are thinking about what you need. who better than you knows what makes you happy?
To manage the change and concentrate correctly, can we use the triple ruler?
We are afraid of changes as they often take us out of our comfort zone, uncertainty and the unknown frighten us, because it is impossible to know what is going to happen, because we have less control over the variables in new situations, so the first step to overcome change is to manage our emotions, especially fear, and accept them.
Fear should not be a reason to paralyze us and do nothing, but to encourage us to act, to be curious, and to be proactive. Fear is a natural response to the unknown, but we must not let it dominate us.
To adapt to change and focus on the new, it is necessary to know each other, that is, perform an introspection task to identify our defects and virtues, so that we can minimize the former and improve the latter.
Knowing ourselves will allow us to better adapt to change, to know in what aspects we might need help and in what other aspects we will use our skills and knowledge. Perhaps a good idea is to challenge our ingrained beliefs and replace them with more positive beliefs.
Once we know our emotions and how to manage them, and we know what skills we have and which are useful for change, it’s time to start acting, it’s time to put ourselves in a position and start actively investing energy in our goal.
Managing change means anticipating us to see what can happen and planning different ways of doing things, so we will feel safer and more confident, because unforeseen events will be reduced.
In our day-to-day life we are surrounded by a number of elements and situations that prevent us from focusing on our objectives. Think about what happens when you usually do when you talk on the phone: it’s very rare for us to pay attention exclusively to the conversation; or when you start performing a task on your computer and accumulate tabs. That said, what can we do to focus again?
Doing many things at the same time is overestimated, and sometimes we are stressed because we cannot concentrate and finish something concrete, it has probably happened to all of us that, when we write an e-mail, for example, someone calls us and we don’t even finish the email.
To avoid this, each time you start a task, focus on it to the end, avoid interruptions, and continue to the end. This approach will give us order and the feeling that we have made progress and that we have not left the task in half, but we are focusing on concrete things.
Meditation can help us a lot to focus on here and now, what surrounds us, and what we can see and feel now. Through deep breathing, we will be aware of our body and focus on what happens in the present.
Find a quiet place, sit cross-legged and start breathing deeply. Focus on how air enters your body, how it tracks the path of your nose as you enter your mouth as you leave and let your muscles relax.
If you have multiple to-do tasks, you need to prioritize, so that the most important ones don’t stay behind and the least, except unforeseen, too. He thinks that if we leave the important things to do after the other tasks, we will be tired and we will not pay the attention that deserves a task that requires our total concentration.
Take advantage of the first moments of the day to do the most important thing or, if not, the heaviest. In this way, you will be doing it with all your energy, with a good dose of creativity and focus on your goal, without distractions and with little accumulated tension.