The law of the mirror shows us that the origin of our negative feelings towards one person is in our hearts, not in the other, that is, what this law teaches us is that feelings originate from us, and that is why we are responsible for managing beliefs, ideas and bad thoughts in relation to others.
Because irritation usually comes from one’s own person and not from others, that is, it all starts and ends in itself, because it is the projection that plays with our minds, as if our reality is a mirror that gives us back the image that we have. Generate.
- Yoshinori Noguchi recreates this law in his book of the same name.
- A beautiful story.
- Poignant with tears.
- That offers us the opportunity to assume and integrate this idea into everyday life.
This author places us in front of a mirror to face our interior, which definitely determines everything that happens to us in life, for that reason, as Jung would say, “what you deny submits to you and what you accept transforms you”.
Why are our brother’s comments bothering us at family meals?Why can’t we reason when our sister-in-law is present?don’t you support us when we want to?
To analyze this, it is a good idea to make a list of all the things that bother us in the people around us. We will probably realize that there are values that we also underestimate; I mean, we’ll probably realize that there are things we’re also doing wrong.
One way or another, we have to ask ourselves questions such as: why don’t we react in the same way to everyone in the face of a situation, why a simple, dry one?Hello, do some people irritate us and do not provoke any reaction when other people say them?The answer is simple: the same is not maintained in relation to one person and others.
So the next step is to make a list of what we have to thank those people who always bother us (she’ll probably have done something for us or someone we love).
There is no time limit to make this list; we should take the time to consider how many of these characteristics that bother us in the other person are also in us. When we’re done, we could make another list that describes the problems we’d like to apologize for.
This can be difficult and ultimately we think that we have created a forced list of minor details, however, this difficult gesture will help us realize that at some point our eyes were hostile, that on other occasions we spoke in a different voice. or criticize behind the back something that didn’t make sense.
The last and bravest step is to contact this person by phone, letter or face-to-face, we will have to thank you for the reasons we write down in the first list, and then apologize for the things that are noted in the second list.
If we want to overcome this and give everything to heal the grudge, then the contact must be direct, however, if this is not an option, a less radical way is to write a letter that will not be sent, to allow us to release the emotional change that we carry in our luggage.
In any case, knowing the law of the mirror helps us to be careful and to try not to feed grudges and bad feelings from now on, we must not forget that we project what we carry in ourselves, so that everything we see in others is likely. to say more about ourselves than about them.