It’s not easy to define romanticism. It was a literary and artistic school, but also a human attitude towards life, especially towards love, what is clear is that romanticism has transcended times and fashions, in today’s world, with all its pragmatism, there are still many people who look at reality with a deeply romantic air.
This is more clearly seen in the territory of couples. Not for nothing, it is precisely the love between a man and a woman that is called “romantic love”. It wouldn’t be so transcendent if it weren’t for the view in whose affections they are idealized and, over time, tend to lead to great disappointments.
Here we will know what are the myths of romantic love that often prevent us from being happy as a couple.
“I love how you love love. I know no other reason to love than to love. What do you want me to tell you, other than that I love you, if what I want to tell you is that I love you?”
? Fernando Pessoa?
There is the idea that love can do everything, achieve everything, achieve everything. Unfortunately, this is not the case. Couple love, like all human feelings, has its limits and its precise reach, love cannot do everything.
Supporting this myth can be harmful in many cases, for example, when someone thinks they can switch to another, through love, obviously love affects behavior to change in a certain way, but the truth is that a relationship will not change the essence of anyone at most, you can cut some edges.
Nor is love able to overcome all obstacles, tolerate all mistakes, or forgive all offenses, no less lovingly, there are limits that cannot be transgressed, if this love does not include respect, tolerance and good communication, the bond is likely to continue, but it does not feel.
Often, when it comes to love, it is associated with magical ideas. We’re talking about fate or predestination, one?Inexplicable, of a single true love for life, or eternities and infinites that most of the time are just words.
There are those who want to see love through the prism of the supernatural, they want it to be an incomprehensible force, to appear in life without knowing how or why and to turn the couple into gold, this idea of love is such a strong desire that you will hardly find attraction in more earthly relationships.
People assume that if there are difficulties in your relationship it is because you have not yet found your true ‘half-orange’, they assume that when you find it it will not be necessary to strive, because everything will sink as if it had been written beforehand.
The contrast between an imperfect flesh-and-blood relationship and the relationship idealized by romantics is very strong. Of course, the real relationship will always be lost. How would you compare a here and now full of imperfections and discord, with an beyond where there is only harmony and happiness?
In fact, the one who loses in the end is the one who seeks to see in reality something that exists only in the fiery imagination of romanticism, more than once you will see thwarted your desire for absolute encounter and total harmony.