“Not being loved is a mere disgrace. Is the real shame not knowing how to love?, with this beautiful skill, love was described by the great French writer Albert Camus.
Are the passions and misfortunes we experience when we love someone essentially summarized in these few words?
- A lot of people wonder in front of the mirror when they’re alone.
- “Why don’t you love me?”They secretly verbalize how their heart feels.
- Disorientation and fear take care of the rest.
- Confusing us in a blind sense of bitterness.
Love is not an exact science, it does not respond to clear concepts whose methodology leads to everything we desire, love is the greatest emotion that we can develop in ourselves and in relation to those around us.
I invite you to look back and look for the beginning of your emotional relationships; I’m sure everyone will have a common start: the inexplicable attraction we feel for a certain person.
Will it be a look, the way the person smiles, the awkwardness, the shyness?All these details open the “bottle of the essence of love”, facilitating a first approach, which over time can become a sentimental and loving relationship.
If you hear someone say that their partner is “perfect”, not only do you feel incredulous, but you can also be sure that the person is experiencing the disconcerting and what?Dangerous?the “attraction” phase. That’s when our future fears and bitterness toward our partner begin to appear. This period is characterized by a huge desire to highlight the positive aspects of our “orange half”; reduce negatives, differences or tensions between the two parties.
The idealization of the loved one is gradually sculpted during the time when the “attraction” occurs. The immaturity or innate desire to be loved are emotions that blindly imply this attitude.
It is natural and no one can escape this torrent of continuous joy and happiness, the experience and knowledge of our own emotions will make us feel a little calmer, in case new episodes of attraction appear, these feelings will become more serene and mature sensations. , eliminating the madness of the illusion of falling in love regardless of reality.
Does living in this dream scenario still have an expiration date?Over time, we begin to polish our feelings, previously very well sculpted, full of idealism prefabricated by our passionate soul, this process is given in parallel to the feeling of consolidation of the couple.
So the possible filters installed to make that happen without the scan slowly starting to taper off? We become more permeable to all the sensations that derive from our love. Won’t a whole ten, eight, or even seven come out? The grades go down, because we are also beginning to fall into reality.
So, begins the phase of true knowledge of the beloved, do feelings of incompatibility, mutual knowledge, differences in each other’s daily routine appear?Obviously, this is not the end of love, but the beginning of a personal work that must be done by both sides and thus true love is achieved.