Signs of psychological abuse can be difficult to detect. Unlike physical violence, psychological violence is committed and received more frequently than the people around the victim think.
Worse, the victim also ignores him, as the depth of abuse tends to gradually increase, leading the victim to justify, by approximation, the abuse he would never have accepted if he had started radically.
- Psychological violence can be more harmful than physical violence because it can weaken what we think of ourselves.
- It can paralyze everything we are meant to be: we allow it and turn it into something bad so that we can mis define ourselves.
- Between parents and children.
- Husband and wife.
- Between parents.
- Between peers and bosses and even between friends.
The aggressor usually projects his words, attitudes or actions on the victim or victims he has chosen, is one of his favorite strategies to avoid any cognitive conflict that may contradict his false self-esteem and, in addition, it is a way of attacking. the victim herself, to make her dependent and create in her a sense of helplessness.
Answering the questions we offer below can help you find an answer
Humiliation, degradation, denial. Judge, criticize:
Is there anyone who makes fun of you or exposes you to others?
Does he make fun of you, use sarcasm to degrade or denigrate your image?
You say your opinion or feelings are, or don’t they matter?
Does anyone ridicule you regularly, reject you, take into account your opinions, thoughts, suggestions and feelings?
Mastery, control and shame:
You think this person treats you like a child?
Constantly corrects or punishes you because your behavior is “inappropriate”
Do you think you should ask permission before you go somewhere or before you do anything and even make small decisions?
Do you control your expenses?
Does he treat you like you’re inferior to him/them?
Do you feel that he is always right?
Do you constantly remember your flaws?
Do you underestimate your achievements, your aspirations, your projects and even who you are?
Do you dedicate or despise your vision of things, your comments, and your behavior?
Accusing and blaming trivial or unspicpable demands or expectations negates its own flaws:
Do you accuse something artificial when you know it’s not true?
Are you incapable of laughing at yourself?
Are you extremely sensitive when it comes to other people making fun of him or making comments that seem to show disrespect?
Do you regret your problems?
Do you want to justify your behavior or do you tend to blame others, or circumstances, for your mistakes?
How does that affect you?
Are you blamed for your problems or your misfortune?
Is there a constant lack of respect?
Emotional detachment and ‘treatment of silence’, isolation, abandonment or emotional neglect:
Do you withdraw or retain attention or affection?
Don’t you want to meet basic needs or use negligence or abandonment as punishment?
Do you blame yourself instead of taking responsibility for your actions or attitudes?
Don’t you realize or don’t you care how you feel?
Don’t you feel empathy or ask questions for information?
Bependence and deception:
Does anyone treat you not as a separate person, but as an extension of themselves?
Don’t protect your personal limitations and don’t share information you don’t approve of?
Do you think it’s better for you to do what they think?
Need constant contact and haven’t developed a healthy support network among your own partners?
If you answered any of these questions in the affirmative, start thinking about the possibility of actively confronting the person who is abusing you. Talk about what happens to people you trust.
Take off the friendly and understanding person mask that is for others. Finally, and most importantly, let yourself be helped and advised by professionals and get rid of the intruder now. No one should step on your life.