The more you do for others, the happier you are (or believe it), you offer your help and, if you manage to alleviate some kind of suffering, it is even better, however, your desire to make things easier for others often ends up disappearing . it doesn’t make you happier The result is not what you expected. The more you do it, the more disappointed you are.
You can’t save anyone. Everyone can only save themselves.
- Life is not easy and it is proven that it is a difficult time.
- They make us stronger and wiser.
- They allow us to mature and get to know each other better.
- If we did not have the opportunity to go through difficult times.
- We would.
- You’ll never get a chance to learn and gain experience.
- However.
- Here’s what you want to do with your loved ones: suffer for them.
- Always have them there.
- If you could.
- You’d live their lives.
- But you can’t.
The more you do for others, the further you are from yourself. I don’t know why, but surely there are more than one. You don’t want to face it, so you focus on the others. Maybe you need everything yourself. the care, kindness and support you give to others without interest.
Have you ever realized that you’re projecting your need?But instead of answering them, you run away, how can you help yourself if you don’t know each other?How dare you give love if you can’t love yourself?generous to the other, you must first be generous to yourself. You can never offer what you don’t grow; even if you think you can.
When you think it’s more important to do it for others than for yourself, you may not know you’re making a lot of mistakes. These affect not only you, but also others. You can’t build healthy relationships if you turn yourself in while forgetting yourself.
? To support others, you must first support yourself: you always support the people you love, you help them get up when they are at their lowest point, it is your source of motivation when all other possibilities are exhausted. do the same for yourself? Because it would make you miserable.
? Don’t create dependencies: you think if others depend on you, you’ll be happier, you may have to rely on them. This belief can never build a healthy relationship. Addiction causes us a lot more suffering than we thought.
? You’re the first, then the others: you can’t help someone if you also have problems or difficulties to overcome, first there’s you and then there are the others. Always think about it, because it is very important, sometimes we support others even without power.
The more you do for others, the more you limit your power of choice, then suddenly you realize that they have left everything in your hands: they stop fighting for their dreams, wanting to be good, that responsibility now rests with you. Isn’t it enough to fight for yourself? You live for two, three or more people.
Even if your friend suffers, he’s the one who should choose to stay in this complicated situation that destroys his life or not, you can’t hear him, gives your opinion if asked and shows that you can support him if you need it. , you choose for him? Tell him what to do, suffering for him?That’s never.
Our decisions define the course of our lives. There is no default destination, we build our way according to our choices. If someone does this for us, it won’t be our way anymore. And since we’re so human, we’ll eventually give up. Ourselves.
So, you didn’t get anything in exchange for all those people you helped, they didn’t act as expected, you expected some kind of thanks, you didn’t realize you were involved in a life that wasn’t yours, no one will give you a medal for battles that aren’t yours.
Even if it hurts to see someone suffer, sometimes it needs to happen
It’s easier to “let go,” let someone else choose our path. However, this attitude has no advantage. We learn from mistakes, from the people who hurt us, from all those moments that marked us in some way. If we don’t learn to deal with it, how can we build trust in a friend?How do you realize that the path to success is not a straight line, but is full of curves and holes?
Whenever you are tempted to take control of someone else’s life, remember that if you do, the person will stop fighting for themselves, no longer have to deal with difficult situations, and will not learn the situations that happen in their life. You’ll make it easier, though, that’s not the reality. Instead of doing yourself a favor, you push the person into a fictional world.
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