To live free, you have to know yourself. But I’m not talking about first and last names, what I like to have for breakfast, etc. , I mean the parts that are so hard to look at, those that, when someone points out, they get hurt.
States such as envy, pride, cowardice and many others known to all human beings. Look at yourself and ask yourself: What tends to make me angry? Do I let my anger out freely, even using your strength to get what I want? Worse, I hide this anger under a mask of rigidity, rationalizing the situation from a superficial plane and completely ignoring all that emotion that could tear down the wall that we have built with so much pain over the years, one disappointment after another.
- What would happen to my head if other people saw me in this state?Would I be able to love myself.
- Even if I allowed myself to feel and express negative emotions?Or maybe it would fill me with guilt.
- Shame and fear?with the example of anger: imagine for a moment in one of these circumstances the feeling of anger already installed in your body.
- Now allow yourself to feel a little of that feeling.
- Without judging it or trying to suppress it.
- Behave.
- What are your thoughts and what is behind this anger.
- This anger.
- You can say.
- “The other one.
- What’s imprescriptible!? Blah.
- Blah.
- Blah.
- Blah?However.
- What the other person did doesn’t really matter to us at the moment.
- The information we have is just our own interpretation of their actions.
- Which makes me believe that what the other person did hurt me.
Does the feeling that others want to hurt us often appear?Or do we feel that others expect too much from us, or perhaps we feel judged unjustly, burdened with responsibility, powerless, and resentful?What’s your internal dialogue? The more you can search, the more knowledge and answers you’ll get.
In this state of exploration we can discover how deeply ingrained our acquired behaviors and habits are, many of us have learned to act this way from childhood, when, as children, we did not have enough skills to fulfill our desires, so we need others to do it for ourselves. Once we understand how we react, as well as the basic fear and desire that still exist behind this anger, it is much easier to get out of this situation.
Today, we are no longer children, we can take the reins, meet our own needs without waiting for someone else to do so, in short, we conquer our freedom, understanding the meaning of our emotions, listening to them deeply, replacing our usual ones. automatic reactions with coherent decisions, inspired by an intimate understanding of what is really happening to us.
To live free you have to know who we are, to follow the path inspired by our own essence, to know oneself is fundamental to be happy.