The strongest material that exists is neither graphene nor diamond, it is the resilient soul and the heart that have sealed with gold thread the sharpest wounds of adversity, this concept is not the perfect ingredient of happiness, it is an attitude to life, it is I hope that I invite you to move forward.
To say that we live in a resilient time is obvious, circumstances push us to do so, even if there is one thing we all know: we do not always achieve it with the same efficiency, not everyone poses in the same way in the face of a situation of stress or personal difficulty. Each of us drags our private anchors, our oceans of injustice, our degrading seas, and doesn’t always know how to get out of them.
“There is no need to withdraw what has already happened and what no longer exists. -Frédérich Chopin-
For this to happen there are different factors defined in our own culture, we live in a society used to putting labels: you are intelligent, you are brutal, you are manic, you are a loser, this one is fragile and the one that is strongest. .
This obsession with bringing each trait to the extreme and putting a permanent label on it often leads us to a state of absolute dissynchantment, where we cease to believe in our own potential, becoming becoming ingested in our private corners, in our suffering from flesh, tears and discouragement. . . Sometimes it is not enough to tell us that we can be resilient, because resilience, and this is important, hardly comes from loneliness.
Do we also need someone’s trust, the proximity of an empathetic and facilitating environment where they can germinate again: stronger, freer, more beautiful, more dignified?
The key that makes some more resilient than others is the ability of our brain to withstand or withstand stressful situations, so there is a biological factor that neuroscience has been studying, in fact, through books like the one published in the journal Nature, we understand a little more this fascinating but at the same time complex process that shapes the resilient brain.
These are the main mechanisms that determine greater or lesser resilience.
As you can see, these three factors can make us more vulnerable, feel more fragile and see the world as a threatening scenario, but it is best to avoid adopting this belief. Our potential is there, like the ship waiting to be rescued from the depths, like the bird that walked with its legs because it had forgotten that it had wings to fly.
Many of us spend our lives upside down around the world, we rest in our own family for childhood inhabited by absences and emptiness of need, we hate who dared to hurt us, who abandoned us, who said?I don’t love you anymore, or who said, do I like you?And it was a lie. We hate this complex and competitive reality and sometimes, in the most extreme cases, we even hate life itself.
“When we cannot change a situation, we have the challenge of changing ourselves. -Viktor Frankl-
We look and energy outside as one who hits a punching bag several times until exhausted, exhausted, without strength, believe it or not, resilience is not a golden armor with which to be braver to make all these external demons disappear. Because it’s no use wearing an invincible shell if you don’t hear it before the wounded man is inside.
The strongest armor is the heart itself, the same spirit in which to put stamina, self-ception, self-esteem and renewed hopes. In fact, and although it is difficult to admit, there are battles that it is better to take for granted, because to leave the past in this drawer where the old calendars are kept is to let themselves live in the present, is to let hope arise in the cracks of our own wounds.
Gradually and day by day, these hopes will win new projects, new people and new winds, of those that attract smiles, of those that rip the weeds of the past. Finally, the time will come to be able to do so, and we will seek in the past without feeling the fear and wrath of the past. Calm will come because we finally allow ourselves what we deserve so much: to be happy.