How many people do you know, including yourself, who suffer from not asserting themselves?Assertiveness in communication is an important step on the path to happiness, frees people and allows them to express their opinion without offending or exceeding the limit of the other. and are you still satisfied that you’re not here? Thank you? Do or say something I wouldn’t like.
We can conceptualize communication into three pillars: assertive, non-assertive and aggressive. Among them, it is as if assertive communication is the balance between the extremes of aggression and non-assertiveness (passivity). Easy? For some people, yes, they have already developed skills for this; but for others, extremely difficult. This is where the famous phrases come in: “I can’t say no!?(non-assertiveness) or didn’t I want to talk like that? (aggressiveness).
- They are people who have difficulty expressing their thoughts.
- Opinions and even respecting their feelings and desires.
They end up doing something they didn’t want to do for fear of displeasing the other, so insecurity affects that relationship and also by idealizing, in a way, that the other has more power or is right.
Keep in mind that in this sense the person abstains, it is like a suicide to their own needs and desires, the anguish that surrounds these situations is very great, awakening the leaks in front of them and helping them to repeat themselves constantly. Say? No, it’s often so big that it suffocates even more.
Un vindicated communication ends up creating relationship problems, such as superficiality and difficulty opening up to new relationships, these people can develop psychosomatic diseases, which are ways for the body to express themselves through physical symptoms, such as headaches, gastritis, etc. that something related to emotions and suppression of feelings is not going well.
On the other hand, other people may have high stress spikes, expressing a lot of anger and even outbreaks, not being able to express themselves as they would like and not being satisfied in their expectations, because it is difficult for the other to understand what it is. they want or expect something.
The frustration with yourself is also very great. The idea that “I don’t know how to defend myself” or “I can’t do what I want,” this takes it into account, which often affects the ability to execute your plans or what I need to do.
We must break with such rules, face these situations differently to allow new ways of communicating.
Let yourself say “no”: it is your right to express yourself and do one favor to the other in the face of the frustrations of life, as well as to know how to respect the opinions of others. You don’t have to please everyone!
For some people it’s so hard that they need professional help to assert themselves more, asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness, what matters is breaking with what hurts you, rather than spending your life denying yourself.