“Two close friends embarked on an excursion. As night fell, they fell asleep under a tree, side by side. One of them dreamed that he had taken a boat and sunk into an island. When he awoke, he began to ask his companion if he remembered the voyage, the boat and the island. He didn’t believe it when his friend said he hadn’t had that dream. Impossible, I couldn’t believe it! He got angry with his friend refused to accept that he had not had the same dream as him ??
Intolerance, ego, pride, misunderstanding and lack of empathy are the natural barriers that take us away from moments of happiness or states of tranquility and inner peace.
- How much are we prepared to endure an awkward situation.
- Do we know how to live in front of others and especially ourselves?Do we really control how we want to balance the pros and cons?.
Poor handling of stressful situations in which we are involved and do not know how to leave, or do not want to solve, unless it is favorable for us, deprives us and takes hours, weeks or even years to better enjoy our life. friends, family or couple simply because we want to “be right. “
The feeling of victory is a powerful drug that we can connect to when fueled by pride and ego, but what is the price of staying in this position?
Is the value of what we earn with reason greater than what we lose?The satisfaction we find in the respect achieved must be part of the equation of tranquility, with the brushstrokes of camaraderie, connection, affection, friendship and support.
Film and literature are full of stories where staying strong and obsessed in our positions leads us to misfortune or unhappiness, yet we learn little. We reflect and even think about what someone close should or should not do, but when it comes to truth preaching by example is what is missing.
What the closed position of a person obsessed with obtaining a favorable outcome in a dispute is based on three elements:
Except in cases of real evidence where there is no debate possible and where confrontation does not depend on interpretations, the natural thing is that no one possesses the absolute truth.
This idea seems to mature in us and be present in moments of sobriety, but does it sometimes weaken when we face other people?
Anger, fear, frustration and anger. When we see that something is not resolved or does not satisfy our desires, a series of mechanisms are put in place that trigger negative emotions that dull our reasoning and consume our inner energy.
When we are stuck in one position, we lose energy and, above all, time. The time we waste to enjoy without conditions and without a sense of commitment or obligation.
Censors, manipulation attempts, lawsuits, foul play, emotional addictions, etc. We must be prepared to detect all its signals when we are in such a position.
And not only to detect them in others, but also in ourselves, which driven by the emotions mentioned above, we have behaviors that we would not be proud of in normal situations, tranquility and flexibility.
We can ask a few questions to help us find a flexible path
The next step will be to formulate alternatives within the conflict to resolve it and find out how flexible I can be and give in, or when I cannot seek to reaffirm my gratitude.
All this with the deepest sincerity. Pretending to be flexible is unnecessary. Sooner or later the truth will come out, and we will embody another conflict reinforced by the previous one with different forms and languages, but with the same skin.
We will invest the time we can save with others and give you the corresponding amount. Are you sure that many times it is more than one? Did I tell you or did I know?