Ask yourself, even if you only take a minute to find an answer, if you have ever feared losing the person you love because you decide to go with another partner, remember that fear is one of the faces of love, it is fear. of love, the fear of losing what we have and what we are. Love scares us.
Jealous people are attentive to every step of their partner, monitor and control to restrict their actions; think they’re going to avoid or discover their partner’s infidelity. I’m talking about work, study center, family, friends?Even the most superficial social relationship can be perceived as a threat by jealous people.
- Some are even jealous of their partners’ experiences in the past.
- When they didn’t even know each other.
- And two types of jealousy can be identified: obsessive and delusional.
- On the other hand.
- Remember that jealous people can have one or both.
Obsessive jealousy is characterized by your partner’s verification, testing and prohibition rituals, and they have these behaviors:
Jealous people, with constant verification behaviors, feed their states of anxiety, anxiety, anxiety and mistrust much more. Jealous people experience emotional distress caused by distorted thoughts:
The delusional jealousy is characterized by the fact that the jealous is convinced of the guilt of his partner when he still has little evidence, so jealousy exists in excess and strengthens (any detail can be proof that his jealousy is reasonable), and the person is excessively possessive.
The jealous adopts an attitude of vigilance and mistrust, and the control adopts attitudes of reserve and resentment; both suffer and strengthen each other’s behavior. Jealousy, increasingly vigilant, his partner increasingly reserved.
The jealous regrets hurting his partner, which does not prevent his jealousy from triggering some jealousy that often ends with an aggression, whether verbal, physical or psychological Once the moods have calmed down, the person returns to the beginning of the circle to ask for forgiveness.
Jealous people can certainly change. In fact, cognitive behavioral therapy techniques have proven to be one of the best resources to achieve this change, jealous people learn from treatment to trust others, to firmly believe that they will remain faithful, because they like to be by their side. side and the life they lead with them.
They can change when they understand that they have accumulated virtues by which they deserve to be loved and when they assimilate the ability to change aspects they see as better or that they believe can alienate their partner. Thus, the recovery of perception of value and control will stimulate and resolve this change.