What would you do if you weren’t afraid?
“Love without measure, without limits, without complexes, without permission, without courage, without advice, without doubt, without price, without cure, without anything. Don’t be afraid to love, will you shed tears with or without love?
? Chavela Vargas?
One of man’s innate feelings is fear; it’s a natural response to danger.
Fear helps us survive, but it also limits us, and is often used to limit our desires; affects both the body and the mind.
In the face of fear, our body reacts with high blood pressure, our pupils expand and the heart pumps blood quickly.
But sometimes fear is alone in our minds, because it can be imaginary when it has no correspondence with a real danger.
There are many types of fear: fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of losing power and fear of change.
“With fear, we don’t make decisions
we’re not creative and most importantly,
Aren’t we happy?
Carl Gustav Jung, a great Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, argued that we all have characteristics that we hide, and from a young time we realized that this is necessary if we want to be accepted.
This set of features that we don’t accept in ourselves is like a shadow that appears at some point in our lives.
With this “shadow” we develop what Freud called “the ideal of the self”, which is a personality that we have created to fit into our environment without being rejected.
This rejection of shadows poses many problems for us, because we do not accept ourselves out of fear, we do not love each other. Fear is the opposite of love. We don’t love ourselves for fear and we can’t love others.
What would you do if you weren’t afraid to accept yourself, recognize yourself, and not be rejected?
He would be free and enjoy his love for himself and for others
“Everything that irritates us in others can help us understand ourselves. “
? Carl Gustav Jung?
Do I hate it or? Odium? In Latin it’s someone’s rejection or something, in fact it’s useless. What’s the point of hate? You are welcome. We’ll just hurt ourselves.
Paulo Freire, a Brazilian education specialist, says
Love softens you, fear hardens you. Love opens the universe, fear keeps you trapped in yourself.
“Fear is the most difficult emotion to control. With pain you cry, with anger you cry, but is fear anchored silently in your heart?
? David Fischman?
Love is always a risk. Sometimes we have to take that risk and live life, live the passion of love. Our past experiences and beliefs limit us and trigger the fear of love.
Our fear of love comes from our lack of love for ourselves. If we can’t love each other, how can we love someone else?
Our self-esteem or self-consideration is something we must improve to love and love others.
Argentine psychologist Walter Riso offers some keys to improving self-esteem:
? Congratulate yourself, every time we do something good, something positive, we have to congratulate ourselves.
? Reward yourself. Any achievement in our lives, no matter how great, deserves an award. The price can be something simple that we like.
? Eliminate repressive beliefs that keep you from moving forward. Although sometimes we have to put limits on our feelings, other times we have to let them go. What’s wrong with crying in public or showing your love for someone in front of other people?
? Don’t be ashamed of your successes and efforts, enjoy it
The extreme case of fear of love is phylophobia. A person with phylophobia has an intense fear of loving, falling in love with someone, commitment and intimate relationships.
Philophobes use various mechanisms to defend against love and stay in their comfort zone:
? They fall in love with impossible people
? They start relationships that are doomed to failure because they’re both so different.
? They provoke discussions with the couple, so that the other person takes the initiative to break the relationship.
? They look for the flaws of others to justify themselves
Fear of love is a normal feeling if we have had negative experiences; but we can’t let him rule our lives. We can’t escape, but facing this fear helps us move on.
Talk to your partner, explain why you are afraid, and find a solution together.
Communication is fundamental to overcoming our fears. It is also necessary to leave past relationships and live a new relationship every day.
“Not loving for fear of suffering is like not living for fear of dying. “
? Ernesto Mallo?