Indifference comes to a romantic relationship in a gentle but relentless way, it is a bitter silence where there is uncertainty, nostalgia for what was everyday and complicit and now necessary, because the opposite of love is not hate, but this feeling capable of breaking into a thousand fragments called indifference.
Relationships Die? For many reasons; We know this and there is no doubt that everyone carries a heavy burden of suffering for which no one is prepared, however, one could say that it is precisely this void, this passive and cold attitude of the other towards ourselves that often creates more despair and anxiety.
- Love often has three enemies: indifference.
- Which gradually takes us away.
- The indecision that prevents us from moving forward and the frustration that ends everything in a second.
Each of us may react differently to rejection or betrayal, but how to deal with the emotional vacuum of indifference?It’s not easy, so we always try to find a motive, a reason for this emotional distance, even if there isn’t always a reason for the end of love Is it suffocating like a twilight sun that lacks vitality?
The health of a couple, like every living being who needs a vital diet, must strengthen their structure, their relationship, all through these daily rituals full of complicity, in which are the gestures that connect us, the words that elevate us, the caresses that recognize us and the common spaces inhabited by a necessary physical and emotional closeness.
Now, sometimes, almost not knowing why, we use silence or non-intervention by delegating in the other to do, say or act, we begin to take for granted feelings and even answers to questions that we no longer ask ourselves. priority is given and the main aspects are overlooked.
If we’re going to talk about a sentimental relationship expert, it’s almost inevitable not to talk about John Gottman and his theory of the “4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” about the motives that lead a couple into the abyss of est estinement.
You will not be surprised to know that among these pillars, in addition to criticism, contempt and defensiveness, there is also “indifference”, that evasive behavior that looks the other way and creates great chasms of uncertainty. All this, all this emotional emptiness and emotional coldness generates serious consequences that need to be known.
What are the psychological consequences of indifference?
I no longer feel pain, now my heart is deserted more than ever because it has been resigned, now I only feel indifference, which is the most absolute and heartbreaking lack of feelings.
As they say, indifference kills, and although many define it as a passive attitude that gradually opens up in a romantic relationship, it is not really entirely true, emotional emptiness is a very active enemy that must be identified as soon as possible to prevent this bond from establishing and breaking forever, this union with the person you love , or with oneself when self-esteem is lost.
Sometimes it’s enough to make small changes, make agreements, break the routine that relationships become part of from time to time. Any effort to save the relationship is valid. However, if we are fully aware that there is no love or that this situation brings more suffering than happiness, we will have to take some distance.
It is of no use to be captivated by the heartbreak, the abandoned dreams of two strangers who gave everything and who in the end everything has become nothing, indifference hurts and defevers us, but time heals him when and when we are brave to walk. when it arrives, when we are still able to remember that we must take care of ourselves.