A lot of people think brave people aren’t afraid, but that’s not true.
Today we are seeing more and more terrorist attacks in different countries of the world, the people who make up it, whatever their ideology?, felt loss and injury like their own, and there were manifestations of repudiation and rejection. than others.
- Of all the messages that have gained followers in demonstrations and on social networks.
- One particularly caught my attention.
- Not very original.
- Very recurrent and no less interesting.
- Is this type of message that announces that we are not afraid.
- Now the question remains.
- : “It is true that it is not an emotion that has been printed on the faces of the inhabitants and tourists of the assaulted cities”.
“We talk about fear because I’m afraid and my grandmother also when she tells me not to even think about getting close to these places. “
This motto can innocently collect all that remains to be understood in the field of emotions. Emotional intelligence is fashionable, it is a very present topic in the windows and titles of the articles, but we are still far from integrating it into our discourse, which remains a daily manifestation of what we think and feel.
We talk about fear because I am afraid and my grandmother also when she tells me not to even think about walking near these places. Caution, caution and fear. Fear that it will happen again. Fear of the unpredictable, of the inevitable, of chance, of the speed at which the end comes for those who saw images fragment in front of them and did not hear the sirens and could not find a desperate way out of this trap, a place. that a few minutes before it was adorned with roses and was ideal for walking in peace.
We talked about not wanting to recognize fear because of the panic we feel about being vulnerable: because when we were children we were taught that vulnerability was a sign of weakness, in this way we panic to feel vulnerable, to recognize this feeling for our conscious inner dialogue. In this way, we avoid and deny the existence of fear a thousand times, stating that we are actually brave people who fear nothing.
So what are the consequences of denying an emotion, in this case fear?First, the energy of this emotion is transported or passed on to other emotions we admit, such as anger or outrage. By increasing the energy of emotions at this pole, what happens is that the control we have over them is greatly weakened, causing insignificant acts of revenge against people we believe share characteristics with terrorists. In this case, the most obvious feature is religion.
And what happens when you blame followers of the same religion, for example, it facilitates the work of those who are dedicated to attracting followers of this barbarity, that is, the almost immediate consequence is the increase in the number of people who want to win. paradise at the expense of their own lives and the lives of those who “hate” them.
On the other hand, we must think that when we ignore fear, we hide our courage, a courage that deserves at least to be recognized by the people who have it or who defend it in its motto. Fear allows us to recognize the effort and merit of the citizens who, in the wake of the attack, took to the streets to tell the terrorists that they will not hide, also allows us to understand the people who did not do this.
Recognizing fear also makes it easier to understand our inner world or explain the characteristic symptoms of anxiety that we may feel at that time, however, by denying fear we lose that possibility and, in addition, we run the risk of dissolving it.
The fear that an attack may produce, at first, has a purpose, is it telling us?Something is going on, should we be careful?, besides, recognizing this fear allows us to empathize or unite with those who also feel it, otherwise do we prevent them from feeling strange or weak when emotion is only a consequence of what happened?and perhaps illogical would be to deny how you feel.
I tell my grandmother I understand her fear and I’m sorry too. Shall I tell you not to worry because I’ll be careful?and that’s why she’s more relaxed because she knows my behavior won’t be indifferent to how we both feel. A feeling that gives us the opportunity to be brave people.