People move surrounded by concentric circles of intimate relationships, which vary in degree and proximity and depending on the purpose of the relationship, this goal may be to obtain an important and meaningful source of information for life, a stable aid for the development of life. or simply a source of social welfare.
Think, for example, of the button on a shirt: it will fall to the ground if the cables that connect it to the garment are broken, something similar happens with friendship, although in this case the threads that connect it to the heart are more complex and evolve according to the demands and needs, but also with expectations.
- Friendship.
- Like any other kind of bond between people.
- Is not static.
- This dynamism causes it to evolve and adaptations around it.
- However.
- Sometimes the change is so important and so negative that the thread is broken and the button is lost.
These losses almost always leave a little nostalgia, as if they were irrefutable proof that we are no longer who we were; however, this nostalgia should not confuse us, especially when relationships have become interested and surrounded, at the same time, by an aura of coldness.
Attachment is harmful when it forces us to continue to maintain a relationship based on something that has been but is no longer; when a handful of good memories maintain a tedious routine full of disenchantment. The union that has become a mirror and causes confrontations does not deserve more time than you have already given it.
It is not true that distance or difficulties spoil the affection or quality of relationships. Nor is routine, which becomes a known pleasure when each other’s business completes and increases our daily well-being.
Relationships deteriorate because one or both sides fail to deal with them, in turn precipitated by the awareness that the roads have not been able to converge, generating total dissension. Unless you give in to the emotional blackmail imposed by the myth of stability, your existence will be affected. subject to change, as well as their relationships.
“If they don’t love you like you love you, what does it matter if they love you?-Love Nerve-
If you try to keep by force what is already finished, you will act intimidatingly with your feelings and those of others, you can spend a life in prison.
To quote Osho, it is sometimes impossible to learn without being freed from any learning. This does not mean falling into a kind of stupidity or passing alienation, but to stop trying to understand, to begin serving according to intellectual, social and moral development. of each.
In social psychology, “The correspondence hypothesis?”, he says that it is very likely that similar couples and friendships will establish stable relationships. Only those who have an affinity with your values can have a closer relationship with you in the long run.
It’s about looking for what you need, not only what doesn’t hurt, it doesn’t satisfy you either. Some people have to leave so others can really follow him. No drama, no trauma. Take on changes in relationships as natural processes, such as a kind of change of skin clothing.
It’s about questioning one of the teachings learned about love: love is not sustained, but wants to stay with your friends and companions. With the books you read and the job you spend hours in.
Sometimes it’s simply about obeying your most basic intuition: abandoning what really makes sense, giving up what it no longer brings to anything, even if it takes a long time with us, to disguise discomfort with routine.
Wiser than wounded, we can make sure that our own growth comes from people we really want to keep in our lives, with which we will have different debates and views, but with which we will rarely have to measure the words we speak. You can count on me, because they matter in my life.