Our lives are governed by many variables, one of which is chance, so even though most of the time we assume that we have strict control over our realities, we are captive to chance; however, it is difficult to accept the unexpected. and take on the small percentage of chaos that lives among us.
Sci-fi novel writer Kurt Vonnegut Jr has said that in a world where order and predictability don’t reign, we’re forced to know how to deal with chaos, but not become chaotic. It can be said that this feeling that fate is capricious and puts us in situations that we never anticipate is not something we often experience.
- We can live in peace for years.
- Satisfied with a gift where everything is in place.
- We go in and out of the house.
- We go to work.
- We interact.
- We share time with family and friends.
- And everything is fine.
- Meanwhile.
- A inflection.
- A change of destiny and a face-to-face.
- With the unexpected and the unexpected.
These moments require mental skills, skills and approaches that we have not used before, there are those who, however impressive, respond calmly, it is as if, in your genetic code or in a hidden corner of your brain universe, it has been an extraordinary code ready to be activated in the face of adversity and, in fact, respond in the best way.
There are days when the sun shines and the sky is clear in all its immensity, however, nothing prevents the appearance of darkness and threatening clouds in seconds, bringing the sound of the worst storms, in these circumstances there is no point complaining : You have to protect yourself.
There are times when stability governs everything, every item of the agenda is filled, every project, commitment, journey, everything is assumed normally and satisfaction, however, an unforeseen event can occur.
Moreover, the most unique aspect of unforeseen events is that they never come alone, they often bring more changes and uncertainties, in the midst of these contexts we must not complain, regret or shut up, we must respond, there is action.
However, doing the right thing is never easy for many reasons. Let’s see them.
How can we accept the unexpected if our brains can’t tolerate chance?This exceptional organ has an almost obsessive tendency to look for role models and learn from experience to help us react better to everyday situations. He likes to keep everything under control, because any unforeseen event, any unknown stimulus, undated before or unpre experienced, triggers an alarm system that is interpreted as a threat.
But does being programmed this way mean that we cannot respond randomly or to chaos?The answer is no; people can really deal with this kind of situation and, as surprising as it may seem, we’ve done very well over time.
We are creative beings with great psychological resources to innovate, react and overcome adversity, is this how we have survived and how we will continue to move forward despite the changes, despite the inevitable fear of unforeseen events?
“Uncertainty is where things happen. Is this the place where opportunities for success, happiness and life really await us?Martha Nussbaum?
Science often shows us that life is an accidental byproduct in a random universe. Let us also remember what the well-known physicist Wermer Heisenberg said: “What we observe in matter is not things (or particles), but waves of probability. “
This idea helped him formulate his famous theory of the principle of uncertainty, which ensured that it was impossible to measure or predict the position and movement of a particle. Of course, we can make assumptions, but even in the world of quantum physics, there is a small percentage of chaos. Moreover, Heinseberg emphasized that, in an uncertain world, we must be prepared for the unexpected.
The fact that this is the image is neither good nor bad, that is an obvious reality. There are those who benefit, who have no problem accepting the unexpected and moving forward in a courageous and creative way; others, however, live all this as a paralyzing thing; when we spend many years immersed in an apparent tranquility, the mind feels able to predict what will happen until suddenly the black swan mentioned by Nassim Nicholas Taleb appears.
But how can we cope with the inevitable variable of uncertainty in our daily lives?Let’s look at some dimensions to think about.
It is necessary to accept and face unforeseen events, taking into account the following aspects:
In conclusion, the key to facing the unexpected, whatever its size, is to be brave, if we stand still, lamenting this particle of chaos in our lives, suffering will be greater, we must be proactive, resourceful, able to rationalize fears. and put our emotions and creativity in our favor.