Transmitting to children the importance of thanking, asking for or saying ‘hello’ or good afternoon ‘goes far beyond a simple educational act, we invest in emotions, social values and above all reciprocity.
To create a society based on mutual respect, where civics and consideration make a difference, it is necessary to invest in these small social habits that we sometimes do not give sufficient importance to, since coexistence is ultimately based on harmony, in these quality interactions based on tolerance where all children must start early.
- I am of the generation of thanks.
- Please and hello.
- The same one who does not hesitate to say it when needed.
- These qualities are the only ones I do not hesitate to pass on to my children.
- Because educating with respect is educating with love.
One mistake many families make is to start their children in these courtesy rules when the little ones start talking, but is it interesting to know that he?Social brain: A baby is extremely receptive to any stimulus, to the tone of his voice and even to the facial expressions of his father and mother.
Believe it or not, we can educate a child about his values from an early age, his abilities are unexpected and we must take advantage of this great emotional sensitivity.
Neuroscientists remind us that a child’s neurological system is genetically programmed to “connect” with others. It is something magical and intense, even the most routine activities, such as feeding, bathing or dressing him, are transformed into brain information that, in one way or another, configures the emotional response that this child will have in the future.
The design of our brain, so to speak, makes us feel relentlessly attracted to other brains, by the interactions of all around us, therefore, a child who is treated with respect and who has become accustomed to hearing the word?Thank you, will you quickly understand that you are facing a powerful positive stimulus and that you will probably get rid of it little by little.
It is very likely that a 3-year-old boy who has been thanked by his father and mother, please or hello, still does not fully understand the value of reciprocity and respect that permeate these words, but all of this creates an appropriate and wonderful basis for the roots to become strong and deep afterwards.
In the end, the magic age between the ages of 2 and 7 is what Piaget called the “intuitive intelligence stage. “It is here that the little ones, although subject to the adult world, will gradually awaken the sense of respect, intuitively this universe that goes beyond their own needs to discover empathy, the sense of justice and, of course, reciprocity.
When a child finally discovers what happens in their nearest contexts when they ask for things with one?And it ends with a “thank you” nothing will be the same. Until now, I had interpreted it as a pre-established social norm for adults. , which encouraged her positively to behave well.
“Education doesn’t change the world, it changes the people who will change the world. “Paulo Freire.
However, sooner or later you will feel the real effect of dealing with a partner and how this action, in turn, is reversed. It is something exceptional, a behavior that will accompany you forever, because treating others with respect is also respecting us is acting according to values and a sense of coexistence based on a strong social and emotional pillar: reciprocity.
It is around the age of 7 that our children fully discover all these values that make up their social intelligence, it is at this point that they begin to give more importance to friendship, that is, to what implies this emotional responsibility, to understand and appreciate collaboration. , to respond to the needs of others and interests other than their own.
It is undoubtedly a wonderful time when every adult must keep in mind a fundamental aspect: we must remain the best example for our children. Now the magic question is this?
We suggest some simple strategies to consider, some basic guidelines for designating children in each situation:
These are simple rules that will certainly be of great help in the day-to-day life of any family.