As December approaches you can see how the streets are decorated and how a festive atmosphere forms, we receive messages from friends and family, we start planning the details of the meetings that we will have with them and we look for ways to express our affection. it’s a time of reunion and, more to give and receive, it’s a time to share.
Although many consider it a happy, familiar and fun time, there are people who live it differently, with nostalgia, sadness, frustration, stress and even pain.
- Beyond how we perceive them.
- These dates can be the time of year when we live the most different emotions.
- And these are directly related to the experiences we have.
Then we will delve into the psychology of emotions at Christmas
Christmas is not necessarily a time of happiness for everyone, everyone will have different emotions and sensations, depending on the most recent events that have occurred in their life, and also how they lived it during childhood.
In childhood Christmas is a time associated with parties, gifts and magic of everything, there are also many fun Christmas activities, family talks, etc. , so when we are children it is easier that there is a greater predominance of the positive. Emotions.
However, the truth is that it will all depend on how adults closest to the child perceive and live this time of year.
Anxiety is one of the emotions we experience most on these dates when we are adults, and it appears for several reasons, such as:
For these reasons, we may live these dates as days of “madness,” which we feel overwhelmed by stress and end up hating everything. Besides, if we lose someone recently or go through a separation, it won’t be easy to embody the Christmas spirit others expect of us.
According to the psychology of emotions, it is important that, at this time of year, we can dedicate ourselves to identifying what we are feeling and thinking about what makes us feel that way. Or do we feel sad, melancholy, and angry?
It is important and necessary to understand our emotions, allow us to feel them and do what is in our power to manage and live them in a healthy way and according to what is happening around us.
We should not get carried away by the idea that everyone should be happy at Christmas and that if we are not, we should strive to feel that way; actually, we have to accept our mood, trying to adapt as best we can to reality. Situation.
When we are not living an emotionally easy time, one of the best ways to approach this time of year is to learn to relativize, that is, to give things the importance they deserve, this means that we can learn to see Christmas as something that does not force us to “be well”, to solve problems, to attend various types of meetings Etc.
By relativizing the opportunity, we can discover that, like the rest of the year, we must feel free to live and live Christmas in our own way, with our own emotions.
When Christmas makes us feel negative emotions, it is good to pay attention to this sign to make a change.
Then we can see this time of year as an opportune time to try to see the things that make us sick in a different way, try to better understand each other and manage the emotions we feel, while giving us the opportunity to feel good.
Christmas can be a time that can help us set personal goals and emotional goals and start working to achieve them.
If we make a change, we can begin to have different goals, which invite us to mobilize and take a series of steps, acting will help us begin to feel more positive emotions, such as willpower and motivation.
Our mood depends not on anyone but ourselves, we generate our emotions and we have an active (and fundamental) role in them.
Another aspect that will also help us feel better is looking at and improving the kind of thinking we have.
If you associate Christmas with something sad, your thoughts will go in the same direction and your mind will be occupied by ideas like “what sad dates”, “I hope this period will pass soon”, “I can’t bear the happiness of others,?Etc.
It is important to be careful and use our thoughts in a positive way, without getting carried away by the ideas that hurt us, for this we must try to put Christmas in perspective, make it more neutral, make things easier when it comes to living it.
Emotions can be very diverse at Christmas and can sometimes be ambiguous to the same person, leading to mixed feelings.
We can improve our emotional skills at Christmas if we try to understand and respect our own emotions, we must also take the initiative to adopt a different attitude, move away from the negative perception we have and practice relativization to give things. the importance they deserve.
We can enjoy the company of family and friends, as on any other date, without pressure, without obligation to be happy and without hurting yourself with negative thoughts.