Worshiping and loving are two wonderful but undoubtedly different feelings. We all (or almost all) have a firm and intangible goal in our life: to love someone with all our might.
We reflect on this and fervently desire the simple fact that we believe that achieving these goals leads to happiness. We are not wrong to think that a healthy attachment is fundamental to exploring our world.
- However.
- For several reasons.
- We end up confusing worship with love and vice versa.
- As a result of this confusion.
- Do we fill our emotional backpack with?I love you? I love you Vacio.
Saint-Exupéry offers us a magnificent passage in the work?The Little Prince? We can take to illustrate this article in order to shed light on this powerful emotional reality that affects almost everyone at some point in life.
“I love you, ” said the Little Prince, “I love you too, ” answered the rose. “But it’s not the same, ” he answered, before continuing. To love is to take possession of something, of someone. It is to look in others for what satisfies personal expectations of affection. To worship is to make our own what does not belong to us is to appropriate or desire something that complements us, because at some point we recognize that we are in need.
To love is to wait, is to hold on to things and people according to our needs, so when we have no reciprocity, there is suffering. Well, beloved doesn’t fit us, we’re frustrated and disappointed.
If I love someone, I have expectations and I expect something, if the other person does not give me what I expect, I suffer, the problem is that the other person is more likely to have other motivations, because we are all very different Every human being is a universe.
When a person says he suffered out of love, in fact, he suffered to worship, not to love. People suffer from attachment. If someone truly loves, he cannot suffer, because he expects nothing from the other, when we love we give ourselves up without asking for anything in return, for the simple and pure pleasure of giving, but it is also true that this surrender, this altruistic, only happens in knowledge.
We can only love what we know, because loving involves jumping into the void, trusting in life and soul, and the soul is not compensated. And to know yourself is precisely to know yourself, to joys, to peace, but also to anger, to your struggles, to your mistakes, because love transcends anger, error and it is not only for moments of joy.
Loving is fully confident that no matter what happens, you’ll be there, not because you’re giving me something, not because of selfish possession, but just to be in silent company. To love is to know that the weather, the storms and my winters yes No change.
To love is to give you a place in my heart for you to be a couple, a father, a mother, a brother, a son, a friend, and to know that in yours there is a place for me. Giving love does not exhaust love, on the contrary, it increases it. The way to make so much love is to open your heart and let yourself be loved.
“Now I understand, ” she answered after a long pause. “It’s better to live it,” the Little Prince advises.
Another beautiful explanation related to the difference we are talking about is the one offered to us by Buddhist teachings, in which it is wisely stated that if you love a flower, you take it off to take it with you, but if you love it?A flower, you water it every day and you take care of it.
Decidedly when you love someone you accept them as they are, you stay by their side and try to leave deposits of happiness and ecstasy at all times, because feelings, to be pure and intense, must come from within.
That is why it is essential to do an internal work exercise and ask ourselves if we are doing everything right, whether we are showing our attachments and feelings, or whether, on the contrary, we are confusing them with the desire to put words to our relationships. . sustainable and deep.