It is not a good idea to communicate in two, unfortunately there is a set of social and cultural mechanisms that encourage us to leave messages in the air, however, it is necessary to understand the dangers of agreements implicit and implicit in communication.
The word and the way it is used are controlled by society, sometimes invoking good manners, sometimes simply through everyday use.
- Sometimes people themselves don’t know what to communicate or how to communicate.
- Simply because they’re not clear about their thinking.
- They are a chaos where internal communication also fails.
- Which creates difficulties to understand each other.
? You speak clearly; Sculpt every word before throwing it?. Oliver Wendell Holmes?
Similarly, power relations influence these unfortunate equations. There are supposed to be people you can say and others you can’t. Almost every power in the world claims the right to demand silence as their own. And they shut up. Sometimes everything, sometimes part of the communication, this only leads to errors and confusion, so it’s not a good idea.
Acts of communication that are not direct, but in which one or both sides assume that there is sufficient clarity and do not require further explanation, are called subcommittees, as when they say, “Do you knock on the door?”Obviously, you’ve heard it and you know it. The implicit message is “Go and open the door”, but it’s supposed to be a deduction from the previous one.
Even in everyday situations, sub-compressions have the potential to become misunderstandings. Following the example above, “Do you knock on the door? It can also be understood in other ways, depending on the context and the situation. “
Maybe that could mean it? It’s time to cut the subject, why did someone happen?Or could it mean, “Who are we waiting for?” It may even mean: “Alert, no one would have to knock on the door, but they are. Is there any danger?”
Conversational participants should listen to interpret exactly what the other means when they release those vague phrases that, from their point of view, are implicit, which might be considered strange were it not for the fact that in more complex situations this formula is also used, which is almost never a good idea.
In fact, it’s a terrible idea when we enter the world of demands and desires, it happens too much. You want the other person to do something for you or you, but you don’t talk. Suppose the other one should know. ” How can you not realize that I need or want this?” you say. The bad news is that others are not always able to understand and know their situation to assume their thoughts. That’s when conflict arises and the dangers of those involved come true.
An agreement is essentially a pact between two or more parties, of course there are also pacts with yourself, but here we will focus on social agreements, in an agreement each party undertakes to act in a certain way, it is the result of the recognition of all parties involved that conduct is desirable to achieve a common goal.
However, there are those who make the mistake of assuming that there is an agreement without having consulted directly with the other party(s) and therefore without their confirmation. For example, they assume that if they do something, others must do the same. “Yes, I never forget your birthday, you mustn’t forget mine either. “”Just as I think of you before you think of me, should you do the same?”
Two or more humans can create any kind of agreement. The problem is that one of the parties involved takes for granted a pact that was never clearly agreed upon. As in the examples, many mappings are created, but other more complex dimensions also appear. “As I have suffered so much in this life, you have an obligation not to bring me difficulties. “Or “how I feel superior to you, you can’t criticize me. “None of these pacts are a good idea.
What is a good idea is to promote direct and clear communication. One way or another, this communication is still imperfect to some extent; however, the risk of this error increases when implicit, latent, or disguised messages predominate. That’s why promoting explicit messages is a great idea to avoid conflict and avoid the dangers of implicit ones.