We know these loves that arise suddenly and become uncontrollable in a short time: we have seen them, maybe we have lived them, that is well, it is possible that Cupid did his job very well and you face a great love that has been manifesting itself. However, it is also possible that this great love is ruined by the haste present in many relationships.
This is especially true in young couples and older couples who feel the passage of time as a sharp guillotine over their heads, burn scenes at a frenetic pace and, when they least expect it, the relationship seems exhausted.
- The rush makes them want to live everything in an instant and suddenly.
- From a very intense experience.
- There are only those ashes that can be identified with selflessness and boredom.
Passion changes hormones and neurons. It is a delicious state that everyone would like to extend to infinity, in fact, it is possible to prolong this feeling when, instead of rushing, the couple decides to impose certain restrictions, however, when drunk from a sip, the relationship usually has its days numbered.
“The common man, when he undertakes something, pampers him because he is in a hurry to finish it. ” – Lao Tzu-
In the first phase of a romantic relationship, hormones are usually present. The emotion is so great that many people feel literally drunk with love.
This is the phase where the other occupies all the gaps of thought, when it appears, the heart floats. The eyes shine and the butterflies in their stomach float as if someone had just interrupted their peace.
None of those involved have any doubt that he has found the love of his life. This cocktail of hormones, which conditions much of the brain’s chemistry, has the ability to significantly alter our judgment and critical ability. less short-sighted when it comes to logic.
Some couples are wrong at this point. This error is to prematurely close the bonds of your commitment. The rush to live everything in an instant in relationships takes care of their reason, so they move to areas that have implications for the future that they have not yet evaluated.
Promises and oaths arise. Pacts and unlimited access to each other’s lives. On the other hand, no one backs down for fear that the other will.
When it comes to making important decisions, the rush is not a good advisor, there are couples who are already thinking about having a child when their relationship has not yet reached their first birthday, or move to more compromising areas without knowing each other, without having a stable complicity, without having discussed it once.
For a couple to evolve into consolidation, much more is needed than a hormonal revolution. We need to talk. Beaucoup. Il is also important to give time to set up this process of mutual molding.
As much as soulmates may feel, it is necessary to allow time for differences to appear and to build peaceful mechanisms to overcome them, hurry does not allow us to see these differences in our relationships and if they are seen they have no relevance.
In the first phase everyone is willing to accept everything that comes from the other, without giving a critical sense of it, it is obvious that it is, since in this first phase the implicit objective is to achieve the highest level of identification with the link generated.
A lot of people craving intensity. They only feel alive when they momentarily lose their minds and engage in unreserved experiments that mask the problems of everyday life.
Experiences like watching your favorite football team win, going crazy in a show or feeling the emptiness of a free fall with a parachute, for example.
The first phase of love is classified into this group of experiences, it is wonderful to feel it and live it completely, but to understand what it is: a moment of the relationship, not the relationship itself.
Desires will appear to recreate plans for the future, perhaps to live together and create a new core, however, do we think that what goes up too fast tends to decrease just as quickly?And there’s no worse descent than realizing one day that we’re in front of a stranger. that brings us into nothing.
Couple coexistence may not be as mysterious as it used to be, however, many couples get carried away in a hurry and don’t give time for the relationship to mature, so the first setback breaks the bond before it blooms.
Let us think that dosing and pause also allow complicity to take root in the earth, which will soon be both hope and support.