When children are young they are innocent beings who rarely question what their parents say or do, for them we are an example to follow, so they obviously tend to imitate us.
We often criticize our children’s behavior very negatively, we do not allow them to be wrong and our judgments about them end up severely affecting their self-esteem.
- The problem is that we don’t always act like we preach.
- And children realize it.
- There’s no point in telling our children to organize.
- Not lie.
- And not talk.
- If we’re the first to do so.
- A thousand words and verbal teachings are useless if our example does not correspond to them.
Parents need to realize that we are the mirror where the child is reflected, their guidance, their reference, if we are emotionally ill our emotions will also be theirs and our behavior will be projected on them, therefore, as adults, if it is clear that we have the right to fail, we must strive to increase self-control and discipline over ourselves , especially in front of our children.
Through exemplary behaviors, they will correctly learn and understand everything we want to convey.
We think it’s enough to scold children when they lie, but they don’t, children imitate their parents, and let’s be honest, how many times have you found yourself telling a lie, even if it’s pious?On many occasions, we even lie to those who eventually realize it, so the message is that lying is normal and that the right people, and even their parents, lie.
There’s no point in wanting our son not to be a liar if we’re the first to lie.
You know how many times you’ve done your best to make your child stop and listen, but how many times have you stopped to hear it?How many times did he try to tell you something that happened at school or sing your favorite song?And you didn’t hear it?
It is impossible to want your children to stop to listen to you if at times you were busy and did not stop to listen. If you can’t stop at that point, be honest and tell him that at that point you can’t, but then you’ll be very happy to hear it.
How many times do we ask our son not to scream while we scream for everything?If we want him to speak softly and pleasantly we must teach him by our example. It is true that sometimes we lose patience, but as adults and parents, we must strive to be rational and not get carried away with emotions. If we do this often, our children will eventually learn.
Do you drive more than 120 km/h on the highway?Occasionally you double-park?You steal pens from your office? If you do that, you don’t teach your kids to play by the rules, this will make it much harder to get kids to respect the rules of the house because they won’t understand why you can ignore them and they can’t.
If you want your children to read, you have to be used to reading. If you don’t want them to become addicted to tv or smartphone, you can’t use them all day either. Your hobbies will be (with a high probability) the same as your hobbies. That way, if your hobbies aren’t good, maybe it’s time to change them so your child can see him doing something else. It’ll be worth it for both of us.
This is very important. If you are one of those parents who drowns in a glass of water, your children will do the same desperately, it is of the utmost importance to help your children tolerate the swings of life, their own mistakes, other people’s mistakes, frustrations and finally, adversity and disagreements. This will help them realize their own worth and know that they are able to find solutions, accept what cannot be changed and remain emotionally stable.
These are just a few examples of what you can teach your children, but there are many of them, the key is never to forget that we are your main role model, at least until adolescence, so almost everything we do will repeat Think about what you don’t like about yourself and start changing, both for your well-being and for your children’s.