I don’t like not trying, giving up at first, I refuse to accept things as they are from the first moment, even if it’s difficult, I’ll put all my efforts to make everything work, maybe I’m wrong. Perhaps I was wrong and what I consider an attempt to make everything right has been reduced to the simple stubbornness of love.
Love is effort and abandonment. Love is not easy, it is a sacrifice, how many times have we heard that kind of phrase?Words that seem worldly, but printed in our minds, suddenly we find ourselves fighting for something impossible. That’s what they teach us, fight, fight, don’t stand by, this way the other person can get an idea of our passion.
- We don’t understand why we’re afraid to feel bad about not trying.
- But all the stubbornness of love ends in a great failure.
Many couples don’t know why the day comes when they wake up differently, the butterflies in their stomachs seem to have disappeared. No more time for idealizations to be broken and illusions to be dimten, now we look at reality and what we feel is a great discouragement.
Don’t some people notice before the years go by?And you already have a family with children, a cheerful and united group?Until then, this seemed to be the case, but all the evidence is that it’s not. Suddenly, differences appeared. They’re not the same, but it doesn’t have to be negative. Where do they say “opposite poles attract”?
Words that lead us to error, to believe lies that are not correct. Differences don’t un bring us together, they separate us. With coexistence, bad experiences, the most stressful situations, becomes confusing and sometimes seems attenuated, until it becomes unbearable.
Sometimes the past, however, may be reason enough not to give up yet. “We haven’t been through so many good and bad times together to throw it all away now. “We hold on to him so we don’t lose who we are. Do not feel losing and show that we love our partner, that we want everything to move.
We refuse to accept that the relationship is over. However, forcing him is trying to support him at all costs, which only hurts him the most.
Children will experience unpleasant situations. Arguments, rejections and many other moments are the result of a stubbornness that is nothing more than a terrible fear to accept the end of the relationship, it is over and you refuse to accept it. But the pieces no longer match and the fear of what exists outside of this circle in which you have lived for so many years is overwhelming, and you remain inertia.
It’s wrong to think that sorry for sorry for us to stop fighting and accepting this situation is synonymous with the other person not caring about us, the relationship or anything, is quite the opposite. It’s a sign of maturity, knowing how to accept when you’ve reached the end and not wanting to avoid it.
Now you know that your pieces haven’t come home for a long time or never come home, their good intentions at first were a situation that, over time, proved to be the way it is, you’re not compatible and that’s fine.
It won’t be good if you force what hasn’t been done to be forced
You can plunge into a tasteless relationship, in which you will even accidentally hurt yourself, because the circumstance you find yourself in is uncomfortable for both of you, you will not be able to achieve this long-awaited happiness and, little by little, you will find yourself bitter.
What happens when a puzzle doesn’t fit in that room that would be so good to hold?As much as we force it, all we can realize is that it’s twisted, tight and very strange. That’s what’s going to happen with your romantic relationship. Anxiety, pressure, discomfort will be the new adjectives that will adapt to your relationship.
In the stubbornness of love, someone is always hurt. Lack of acceptance will lead to the reality of a painful failure.
Don’t be afraid something won’t work. Things don’t always go the way we want and everything can change at the least expected time. The same goes for life and relationships. Unpredictable, mutant and much learned from us. Let go of this stubbornness of love and accept that not everything will always be as you want, but most importantly, never think that means you don’t care about the person or bond you both tried. unite, if only by force.
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