Each decade of life is accompanied by new changes, challenges and experiences, as well as obstacles and new goals, in that sense the pressure of 30? Or rather, the current 30? This generates many doubts and feelings that can make us anxious. .
We have all heard of the famous crisis of the 1940s, the “midlife crisis,” invented by psychologist David Levinson in the 1960s to name the whirlwind of questions and feelings inherent in this time of life. Later, psychoanalyst Erikson would support the existence of this crisis, explaining it as a vital magazine.
- Over time.
- Although several authors have disagreed about the cause of this famous crisis.
- It could be said that its existence is a universally accepted phenomenon.
We can’t lose sight of the pressure of the ’30s. Something is happening at this vital moment that feeds on social expectations, internal frustrations and a sense of “duty to channel life,” often unfilled. We talk about the motivation to achieve stability in the face of what encourages us to nurture the dynamism that characterizes youth. A crossroads, in many cases, difficult to manage; especially when it is considered that there is no social or family pressure in this mixture.
Increasingly, we reached thirty and realize that what we thought would happen at this age was nothing more than a utopia: what they constantly question you and that sometimes you find when you look at the lives of thirty and so many others. you compare and feel more lost, less realized, and the options to fix the disaster seem to be nil.
At this crucial moment, there are different areas that we tend to evaluate, perceiving such an assessment as negative can generate even frustration, anxiety and/or depressive mood.
Returning to Erikson, he stresses the importance of building intimate relationships in the 1930s, so he explained the need to generate close, reciprocal and trusting bonds as a source of well-being at this time of life.
From what this author proposes and giving a brief reflection on what is expected socially, we can conclude that the 30s seem to be the time when we should already have a partner, family, plans for the future, something stable and safe. As a result, the absence of a stable relationship becomes, for many people, a cornerstone of this crisis of the 1930s.
You studied, dedicated yourself to what came up and searched under the rocks to find everything that matched what you didn’t want to be until recently, you’ve stopped looking for what you like and are fulfilling, or you’d like a choice to fulfill. You may have done a variety of jobs or you may have. The point is, you don’t know if it’s crisis, bad decisions or bad luck anymore, but you still don’t achieve economic independence and it’s time to start buying an apartment.
This is a time when there is a major change in priorities, although it is true that there are times when priorities are more uniform (as in adolescence), over time, priorities become more personal and occasional, which can make us feel distant. away from people who have always been close.
Recreation tends to be rarer, responsibilities multiply, and the frequency and characteristics of plans are obviously changing, we may feel more identified with plans we used to make in the past or that irritate us to make proposals that lead to nothing. It is even possible to feel a great sense of emptiness if we realize that we have no control over the changes. When we don’t act on these feelings, we may feel socially frustrated.
Here are some questions to consider if we are overwhelmed by the thirty years and their pressures.
One of the keys to preventing age from leading to a period of emotional vulnerability is to take a step back in the search for perspective Where is it written that something should happen?Is the standard that measures my fullness external? And if so, what does that mean?
Maybe the pressure of the 1930s isn’t necessarily yours
It’s good for the fifth-year-old neighbor to think that rice will pass, but everyone cooks and eats at home. People ask, talk, suggest, wait? But people are people, and you’re you?You’re the only person you’ll spend 24 hours with every day of your life. You’re trying to meet your expectations, won’t the pressure of the ’30s last a lifetime?Or yes. It’s up to you. Assess your needs and create your own goals.
Despite the efforts, the desire and the work, there are many things beyond our control, there are walls for which we do not have a ladder, but perhaps climbing to some extent allows us to observe that it shines elsewhere. At every vital stage, we grow. . Albert Einstein said that “darkness is the light you don’t see,” and I won’t be the one to take your senses away.
If the changes around you bother you, maybe it’s time to change something, exchange complaints against proposals, regrets about seeking motivations, maybe it’s time to prioritize, find a passion, meet new people, or change your environment. .
In short, value what you have and where anything can take you. Most of the time, health is enough to embark on a journey towards oneself, toward a goal or an attitude. If we experience this set of events as a crisis, it will depend on each person. And yes, it is true that we live in society and escape its “dictatorship”. may seem like an impossible mission? But behind the pressure of the 1930s, that’s who saw it, and behind each person there’s a thousand possibilities. Look for yours!