Lately, phrases have become fashionable that we can say that pretend to be motivating, but which, on many occasions, are nothing more than advertising slogans, most of the time these phrases, instead of helping, make us feel guilty, showing that positive psychology can in fact be a tyranny, especially when we think otherwise, coaching.
Coaching is not psychology, so much so that to be a coach you don’t have to be a psychologist, this fashion has emerged from the field of advertising and your own name already indicates that the coach is a personal coach, a motivator, who thinks it helps you improve your skills, but does not respond in any way to personal problems or low self-esteem.
- But positive psychology is not that.
- It’s not just about spreading a series of phrases to an audience that’s trying to cheer up.
- Positive psychology teaches you to see life in a more positive way.
- But without denying the existence of negative feelings.
- Another point of view.
- Even similar to the point of view of classical psychology.
- Which focuses more on symptoms than people’s abilities.
- Virtues and strengths.
However, there are those who understand that coaching and positive psychology are the same, using expressions that, if understood literally, become tyrannical because their effect is nothing more than temporarily covering up personal discomfort. Here we will talk about some of them and the positive psychology would deal with the situation:
Don’t you want to! Life is all pink if you want it to be, if you wake up every day with a smile on your face everything will be fine, because of course, whether everything is going well or not is a decision that we have absolutely under control. . If you think about it, the power of the mind will attract everything positive, keeping discomfort and all toxic people out of your way. Besides, who’s strong never complains, don’t be weak?Or human!
This example may seem very extreme, but it can be easily found. To make it a true positive psychology, not advertising, the right thing to do would be to say, “Try not to focus your life on the complaint. “By not focusing on the complaint, admitting that it exists and admitting discomfort, there is also the possibility of seeking a solution to the problems. An attitude that is far from ignoring or denying, acting as if there is nothing in our reality that bothers us.
We all live situations that bother us, that cause us pain, but in the vast majority of cases we can face them, if it is in your hands to recognize what is wrong and eliminate it from your life, there is no reason to ignore it. is simply to maintain an image of continuous happiness. The important thing is to be happy with yourself, and many times to achieve it we must fight the discomfort that is in us, or even extinguish it.
If your partner is in a bad mood, kisses him and plays, your duty is to put up with everything and everyone with a smile on your face, don’t waste anyone’s day. Pampering yours is impossible because you are always happy, remember that putting the smile on your face everything is solved by pure magic.
Clearly, this statement tells you to be subject to others, to let go of your negative emotions and feelings, your needs would always be in the background because the important thing would always be the other, it is not certain, the most important thing in each other’s life must be itself, love oneself and be able to express discomfort to others , without being an everyday habit, is essential.
Expressing our own feelings to others, good or bad, is very important, it is about being clear and assertive, not whining, do not let anyone deprive you of your right to be yourself in good and bad times.
“When someone does something wrong to you, it’s out of ignorance or because the child everyone takes has their problems unresolved. Forgive everything without asking for anything in return, because the human being is pure impulse, it is not rational, and therefore nothing can make you suffer if you know that people have their difficulties ?.
Human beings are mostly rational and intentional. While something may not be done on purpose, it is up to you to decide whether you are manipulating it or if there is actual negligence without any intention. Follow your instincts and recognize who wants your property and wants to take advantage of you. Remember that wolves can dress in lambskin, but they will never cease to be wolves.
True positive psychology does not require you to be submissive or guilty, but it strengthens your strength in the face of the adversities of life, it does not deny that there is discomfort, but it helps you to see and face it from another point of view. view, related to well-being.
Positive psychology is not intended to reduce your life to absurdity, nor to explain it through a series of simple slogans, it aims to admit that life is hard, but that hardness depends a lot on one’s point of view. Or, like a famous American, the writer would say: