The prettiest things don’t look at or touch each other, they feel good. A caress, a hug, the magic of a look or a “how you are today”, shape the authentic formula of happiness, which is but the sum of all. those things invisible to the eyes, which when found, sow flowers in the soul.
Experts in the psychology of emotions and behavior tell us that people often lose that natural ability to experience the simplest and most basic happiness, in fact, human beings are the only living being capable of oversizing their suffering, through, for example, distorted or toxic thoughts. .
- “All things are joined by invisible bonds: you cannot catch a flower without disturbing a star.
- -Galileu Galilei-.
True happiness is therefore invisible, you cannot touch, see, but feel, because it is the energy that emanates from our own positive bonds with what makes sense to us. The most beautiful things are there, around us, but they don’t wait. be possessed or manipulated, but rather respected as they deserve: as something sacred.
Because love does not submit and dominate, we must create and renew love every day, as well as the most sincere and rewarding friendship, or affection for a child or complicity with our pets. What we offer and what we receive cannot be touched is the breath of our emotions.
The most beautiful things, sometimes, have always been there, all around us. However, we cannot see them because most of the day we have a huge filter in the brain, activated by our routines, automations, ruminant and mechanical thoughts, and that little intuition that seems completely out of touch with our senses. Emotions.
Rick Hanson is a neuropsychologist at the University of San Francisco, famous for books such as “The Happiness Connection” and “The Brain of Buddha”. In these, it reveals something important to keep in mind: the brain does not know how to be happy, but it is guided by rewards.
From our birth, and throughout our childhood, we are wonderful bounty hunters, but these are aspects so essential, so pure and atomic that today when we reach maturity we have forgotten the pleasure of ourselves. they bring.
Only children know how to appreciate this gift so much, here and now, for them it is enough to dream to feel happy, a walk, a game, a discovery, a hug or a?Am I proud of you? The child spirit as a best gift. Invisible offerings that nourish and appreciate his heart.
As we grow, our quest for rewards becomes more complex: will I only be happy when I have a good job, the ideal companion, or when others recognize everything I’m worth?The mind loses its innocence, and it is the abyss, the insecurities, the frustrations pass?
Neuropsychologist Rick Hanson emphasizes the need to “connect” with our own happiness. Such a thing can only be achieved by reprogramming the brain and taking advantage of its neurological plasticity, it is necessary to change thoughts, behaviors, it is necessary to bring new emotions to shape our reality, why the most beautiful things are still there, invisible and intangible?You have to know how to feel them.
To understand each other a little better as a species, it is always interesting to dely into the field of neuropsychology, the human brain evolved through negative experiences, and it did so because it is only how we learn properly to survive, because our ancestors had to face very difficult situations.
This certainly allows us to understand one fundamental thing: we are programmed to focus on the most negative aspects of our lives, however, it is time to take it a step further, if we have survived adversity as a species, it is time to move forward. go ahead and learn happiness, because the next evolutionary link is nothing but that of consciousness.
Thus we develop a more intuitive awareness of emotions, reciprocity, respect and empathy, let us learn to be aware of the most beautiful things around us to grow with them, take care of them, offer them. we will be happier as we learn to be STRONG.
We are specialists in the art of anxiety, of anticipating deaths, of our own distrust of our own abilities, one way or another, we focus so much on this abyss of negativity in ourselves that we spend the day with our eyes closed. blind inside and out, and we try to find happiness by trying.
Enjoy it slowly, because this is where authentic well-being lies, in the least, invisible and elemental, remember above all that happiness is not the result of chance, it comes from the little things that happen every day and that we usually do. not knowing.