Who has never succumbed to the pleasures and bitterness of impossible loves?A typical example is the love of teenagers. Who has never fallen in love with the English teacher?A platonic love that was content with a look or a smile. It made us dream too much, but it never happened. There was pleasure in the cavilations of this love.
We can also talk about impossible loves for a singer or actress, or someone famous, are the affections we feel for someone we see from afar, even if that person has no idea of our existence, is seen as a family person, but in reality they are light years away, however, many teenagers and even adults have already experienced this feeling.
“Love is like a war: easy to start, hard to finish, impossible to forget. ” – Henry Louis Mencken-
We cannot fail to mention the truly impossible loves, those who are born and care for us, but who are surrounded by bad luck or real obstacles, are emotions that we live intensely and, in one way or another, we never die.
Subject matter experts say that there are essentially three types of impossible love: one of them is ‘ghost love’, the other is ‘narcissistic love’ and finally there is ‘difficult love’. The first is when you fall in love with someone who doesn’t exist, you have to love and attribute to the other characteristics and virtues that you don’t really have, almost always loving this person is a way to meet the needs of childhood.
On the other side are the impossible narcissistic loves. We will never find him: many times we believe that we deserve someone so perfect that we spend our lives looking for him and we cannot find him. It is like loving the void; we want an improved version of ourselves. When you love like this, there is only loneliness. Nobody seems to realize our fantasies.
And finally, the impossible love for difficulties. They are difficult loves to achieve, there are specific circumstances that make them very complicated, for example, this person already has a date or is simply someone who is simply not in love with you, or in other cases there are strong religious or ideological oppositions that prevent the realization of this love.
True love can also become impossible with the death of one of those involved. The person dies, but the love that joins him does not die. At least for a while, we’re caught up in the contradiction of loving someone who no longer exists. If there are no other emotional problems involved, it is impossible to overcome them over time.
It is impossible loves that liberate the poet that exists in us. The most practical ones have never experienced this kind of love, but they missed a wonderful and infernal experience at the same time. All loves need a certain impossibility to stay alive, to stay alive. . Desire And when this impossibility is absolute, the soul burns, but creativity and the desire to live and die in a single moment also burns.
We live the impossibility of love as if it were a vital tragedy, at least that’s how we feel as we struggle to make it happen, they are full of suffering and you find yourself in the paradox of not being able to forget, but you can’t reach them either. We are suffering and rejoicing; are both happiness and abyss.
Despite all this, they have a unique charm. They will test you, challenge you deeply and one thing is certain: we will never forget it, they will never be remembered with indifference. They fade over time, they are overshadowed by reality, but they are always a spark that makes our hearts jump from time to time.
Impossible love can rarely become a burden. This happens when we cannot abandon the fantasy and cling to it blindly; when we cannot accept the frustration of accepting that it is, it certainly cannot be; in such cases, we experience pain that can make us sick. learning to love for real, impossible loves are undoubtedly an excellent school.