Remember this: the person who broke your heart can’t come back and fix it, don’t make that mistake, don’t think your return is the solution.
Don’t go back for fear of being alone, for fear of not knowing how to evolve for life without that person by your side, because dysfunctional relationships, if they don’t work properly, don’t magically lose that feature overnight.
- Remember that when you were devastated.
- Your mind was filled with discussions about a life without that person.
- It still hurt and you still had reason to want to be with it.
- But you wanted to convince yourself that your company wasn’t the best for you.
- You.
Time passes and conflicts are repeated, humiliations, suspicions, the pain of a badly healed wound, everything we flee unresolved is doomed to repeat itself. Repeat.
This means that people tend to stumble upon the same stone (each, of course). This means that when our stone is the establishment of a kind of relationship, we systematically fall on it.
The fact that the stone we stumbled upon has a name?Or “a type” symbolizes the fact that we tend to relate in the same way, to generate emotional addictions, to seek love in a certain way and often in a particular person.
As a result, we often face similar problems even if we are at different stages of our lives. Why is this happening to us? Because everything we run away from is doomed to repeat itself, if we do not think, if we do not rethly regret our decisions or the way we relate, we are doomed to make the same mistakes again.
“It is always necessary to know when a stage of our life ends. If you insist on staying longer than you need to, you lose your joy and meaning. Closing cycles, closing doors, finishing chapters, whatever you want to call it.
We cannot be in the present wishing for the past, what happened, happened and we have to let it go, we must let it go, we cannot be children forever, neither young nor employees of non-existent companies, nor have connections. those who don’t want to relate to us.
The facts happen, and we should let them go!?
? Paulo Coelho?
When we break, when we have very intense pain inside, we want the stability, the well-being that has generated having that person by our side. Uncertainty creates the certainty that “all the time we spent was better when we were together. “
Of course, these emotional bond relationships have a past built on a dysfunctional attachment style, but it’s something we can change through the continuous remodeling of our experiences and reflections.
We need to focus on forming new bonds, losing relationships, and changing, if experiences are very different and meaningful, the content of representations, strategies, and feelings can change the tendency to seek relationships based on dependency.
The correction of our emotional holes must be left to ourselves. Reconstruction is a job in itself; no one has the power or responsibility to do it for us. Let us be aware that every process of change requires pain and effort.
Being able to say goodbye to a person does not mean going back, it means separating what enriches us from what exhausts us, taking care of our courage and swaying the crumbs of a sick love.
Letting go of selfishness, interests and unwarranted absences will help us start a new stage, sow and reap the livelihood of our self-esteem and grow emotionally.
To let go, to move away from the bonds that hurt us means to free yourself, to grow and to create a new life. A new life that launches like yours, which grows by breathing the psychological oxygen of a fertile atmosphere for change.
Covering pain with land is no guarantee of prosperity in a relationship, there are times when stories have to end.
This can afflict us, but the immediate consequence is the reconstruction of ourselves and harmony with our interior. It’s about being honest and demanding with our company and our emotions. It’s not always easy, but it’s necessary.