We all know a person who speaks up to his elbows. It’s as if she’s the guardian of silence, so he’ll never be there. If you drive with it, it’ll be like having the radio on. Before long, this person is able to let you know everything that has happened in your circle of mutual friendships, in soap operas, in social events and in politics.
Unlike you, who think that talking about certain topics can be a little risky, these kinds of people feel very comfortable talking about very different topics, they also count as if they had lived it, making gestures and interpreting with the voice as if they were professional radio announcers.
- You know very well that these types of people are the best speaker you can count on if you want information to spread quickly.
- They are generally not malicious.
- But tend to think only after speaking.
- So much so that you probably should.
- Has it happened to you that you were next to a friend like that and you were clapping? At these times you can elbow him.
- Or a subtle kick under the table.
- But usually the damage is done and it is almost impossible to escape.
Within the group of people who speak through the elbows, hands, feet and ears, we distinguish those that we endure with a little patience, and that we even love, from those that are totally unbearable. Talkative and unbearable people are often characterized by the projection of negative self-centeredness. Criticism and pessimism predominate in her speech, both for her future and for the future of others. They are the perfect prophets of disaster.
They can be so shallow and addicted to subjects so small that their word rhythm causes more fatigue than intense exercise. The positive thing is that with practice, there is a certain habit in the person who speaks all the time, like the sound of a disco: At first it is very loud, so that you can adapt, and when you go out, you realize the intensity of the sound you were. Keep in your ears the ring of thanks for your departure.
There are many traits that characterize them. One of the most features is that they don’t know how to listen, when they finish talking, they’re already starting to think about what they’re going to say next and talk no matter what you say. follow a certain path and go, even if you go in another direction, you are also afraid to forget what you have thought or to lose the thread of the discourse itself, so if you go too far in your speech, they will cut off long.
On the other hand, this profusion of languages also often functions as a defense mechanism, the person does not want the conversation to reach certain topics that he does not want to address and uses a language that tries to divert attention from the other interlocutors. to more superficial issues, such as what a person who is not present at the time did or did not do.
Although we do not belong to this group of people who speak to the elbows, we all use this defense mechanism at some point, either with varying intensity, in fact we start doing it from very young, because it can be a strategy. that, at any time, can avoid noise.
One way or another, the person who talks a lot is so connected to himself, either to talk about himself or to divert attention elsewhere, who generally doesn’t have much resources to listen to the other, so it’s usually difficult for them to feel empathy or build deep relationships with others. This is paradoxical, because they generally don’t understand why it’s so hard to connect with others, if their image of themselves is that of someone sociable.