It is true that our writing is wrong, but it is that it has not existed for a long time, a path that is still important and that is sometimes fertile ground for those who want to detach the most from the commitments made. Thanks to these opportunists, the expression carried by the wind of words has become popular.
This metaphor in the background says that what is pronounced and not written and signed has a lower weight than that of a yellowish deciduous leaf, such as those falling from trees in autumn, may be so in the legal sphere, but in the personal area, it is far from working that way.
- As we said at the beginning.
- We have a memory that skates.
- But it is memory after all.
- There we record the personal commitments that we acquire and those that others acquire with us.
- When a sister agrees to pick up the children.
- She does not sign any legal document to confirm it.
- She simply says that she will be there.
- Gives her word.
- That she rubs shoulders with her identity.
Therefore, she herself remains true to her word. Something that in theory in human relations should weigh more than a signature doodle, on the other hand, we will cling to that word based on the number of times it has fulfilled its promises in the past, and we will especially take into account those that have resulted in a cost similar to that which he gave us his word.
That is, if we know that that sister had no plans that afternoon and probably will not arise, we will try to find situations in which she made a similar commitment, once the memories are located we will use them to estimate if it will be maintained. your word or not.
On the other hand, if you live far away and we know that this afternoon you have an activity that you like and that could interfere with the schedule, we will use the memories in which you have committed at a high cost. we’ll also use them to estimate whether or not.
For this estimate we will also assess other factors, such as the possible motivations to make this commitment, perhaps loves children and sees the moments he spends with his nephews as moments of pleasure and delight, which will certainly reduce the estimated cost, if any. . On the contrary, he will increase it if he doesn’t like the company of his nephews and the activity looks like a drag.
Finally, it must be said that rising costs do not necessarily have to increase the chances that someone will not keep their word. There are people who, for different reasons, as if they wanted to be generous, can fulfill costly commitments and not meet low-cost ones.
There are other kinds of words that the wind barely takes away from our memory and those that have been told to us by the people we appreciate and who have hurt us a lot, you might think they said them in a moment of frustration and then you realized that they didn’t feel exactly like that, but it’s not so easy to erase them from memory , it is not like the wind that can take a leaf that slowly falls from a tree.
The problem is that these words were recorded with a deep emotional imronta, and our memory does not usually forget what causes the deep marks, there is one exception: that fact exceeds our capacity for emotional assimilation and hides memory with dissociative amnesia.
However, even with this type of amnesia, the person may have feelings of rejection towards the person who hurt her even if he cannot explain why, in this way, the words we speak are not harmless elements projected into the air written with ease. eraser, on the other hand, are elements of influence that can never be erased.
Finally, it is worth noting one last important fact, although it is a subject that would constitute an entire book, the words we receive leave marks on us, but also those that we pronounce, as well as we speak of deep wound the words we say, those that we say can also leave us feelings very intense, such as guilt (from a negative point of view) and pride (from a positive point of view). So, no, the wind doesn’t carry the words. Some aren’t even a hurricane.