Extending situations where we are not well, when someone hurts us or simply when something happens that we do not like is very common and has happened to us more than once, every writer knows that ending this is one of the most difficult challenges of a novel.
Fear often paralyzes us as a manifestation of our survival instinct, but when we overcome this barrier, fear dissipates because, in most situations, what we fear does not happen or, if so, we learn to control it.
- Ending a situation is difficult.
- Because our mind confuses us with mostly unlikely imaginations and premonitions.
- And with our opinion of what they will think of us.
- It seems that after that.
- There is nothing.
- There is a void in which we do.
- We don’t know what’s going to happen.
- But we have to think that often the best opportunities are beyond fear.
- In addition to the situations that terrify us.
Ending a relationship, for example, can seem very complicated, but if you think about what you’ll be like in a year with this person who may no longer love you, or who doesn’t show your love, you’ll see that this is not the situation you want for yourself.
The double vision of what would happen if we did what frightened us and did not give us a very realistic view of the situation and helps us to control our fear and think objectively, the same technique can be used when it comes to our professional life or other situations that do not make us happy.
My partner will change, over time everything will change, everything will get better at work, is it my fault that my partner doesn’t like it?We’ve all said these phrases more than once in our entire lives and we always keep thinking like this. , without realizing that we are wrong. We forget that we are the ones who have to change who we are, not just anyone else.
Our brain is very capable of deceiving us because its goal is the survival of the organism, and for this it develops, sometimes masterfully, the information that the senses receive. We all have blind spots in our brains, which are aspects of our lives subject to self-deception. We distort reality to be the way we want it to be and tend to see only what we want to see.
The most important thing in these situations is to be very honest with ourselves and see reality (raw or not), even if we need time to accept it, it is better to know the reality, the sooner we accept it, the sooner we will be able to move on. We may have some guilt in the situation and we may have to accept it; accepting our responsibility is a sign of maturity.
A very important aspect to see reality is to have the look of people who love and respect us, ask your friends, family, loved ones, let them express what they think, think about what they say and draw the right conclusions about reality situations you don’t see or don’t want to see.
Overcoming what terrifies us, moving on, trusting ourselves, ending things when necessary are important elements of our learning to be whole and wise people, to learn that the way we live and feel is our hands.
After all, we are the ones who shape our feelings and emotions, it is one of the greatest sources of beauty in life, and if we are blind we will lose it. For us and, later, for those who love us and who are sincere, honest and loyal.