There are days like this: disagreements, strange and contradictory, are times when we need the warmth of a hug, the warm skin that gives us affection and closeness, however, almost at the same time, we want to escape to a private corner. where no one sees us, where we can think silently with loneliness as the only companion.
What happens to us if we experience this kind of situation or emotional state more than once?The answer is no. Psychological states should not be seen at specific times that are actually quite normal. However, the problem can arise when this condition becomes chronic.
- “You are a master of what you have experienced.
- An artist of what you live and an apprentice of what you will live.
- -Richard Bach-.
On the other hand, it should be noted that these types of emotional contradictions occur in different situations for the most different reasons, sometimes due to small hormonal fluctuations or even by a simple climate change, thus reducing the adhesion potential of Serotonin and therefore suffering small mood changes.
However, one of the most common causes is our own environment and the way we deal with many everyday situations. Because the world and human relationships are also very contradictory, chaotic and even unexpected. There are mornings when everything shines with the color of hope, but when the afternoon comes, frustration arises and certainties collapse one after the other.
How can we better deal with these external and internal dissonances and inconsistencies?Then we’ll talk about it.
We would all like to live in a world of certainties. Firm feelings, precise logic and where ambiguity had no place. However, we must understand that the world, society and even ourselves, with our complex emotional world, are dissonant and mutant. Almost accidentally, we must make great efforts to find harmony in the midst of chaos, because that is how we grow, thus we learn little by little and day by day to balance ourselves and find our own well-being.
Let us learn to accept these kinds of contradictions, both from others and from others, there will be days when, in fact, everything will come out perfectly, and there will be times when a line will seem crooked and hope will not appear even under the We will feel alone, wounded and even filled with anger by frustration, but at the same time we will need a hug , comfort and welcome.
Let us make an effort to live at once with complexity and uncertainty, to accept of course that nothing is entirely certain, that life develops in cycles, that relationships change and that we also change our needs and priorities, it will be a way of breaking discomfort. Because those who become obsessed and stick to the need for eternal permanence suffer, because those who do not accept change, loss or even challenge at the door of their home run the risk of growing up as a person.
It is true that there is no worse feeling than being disgusted with the world, but at the same time needing the most basic, pure and welcoming love, living this feeling, curious as it may seem, is a completely normal thing, a reality that we experience many times. .
“You can’t untie a knot without knowing how it was made. ” – Aristotle-
Igor Grossmann, professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of Waterloo in Canada, explains that these moments of emotional contradiction can become very productive because of a fundamental aspect: they can help us see a certain situation from different angles. However, if this knot of conflicting emotions is not handled properly and becomes a constant in our lives, we run the risk of developing depression.
We need to learn how to search and analyze these emotions to make the most of them. Let’s see how.
The first step in solving the tangle of our little emotional chaos is to proceed with acceptance. Now, accepting does not mean giving in to suffering. It’s about recognizing what’s happening realistically, sincerely, courageously and at the same time sensitively.
The final stage of this strategy of emotional self-management is perhaps the most important, we are talking, without a doubt, about the need to control limiting beliefs, intrusive thoughts, negative obsessions and the psychological artillery with which we sabotage ourselves.
Knowing, controlling and managing our universe of emotions is a weapon of power and well-being, it is to find inner harmony in a sometimes contradictory world, to strike balance in those moments when everything collapses and our emotional scores fall apart.
We all deserve a hug from time to time, a hug that greets us, but above all we have an obligation to take care of ourselves as precious beings, as treasures of our own universe.