Today, everything in me is messy: hair, bed, heart . . . I no longer have anyone to expose my fears and embrace my soul, but still, I promise to pick up every lost piece, cleanse my void and weave my grief so that none of this prevents me from dressing up in smiles, of hope.
Each of us has already experienced this vital crossroads where everything suddenly seems disorganized, our personal compasses no longer point north, and almost without knowing how we get to the edge of the abyss, now, believe it or not, right now we only have two options: fall into the abyss and hit rock bottom or go to change, for a new personal realization.
- It is curious to analyze for a moment the etymological meaning of the word “crisis.
- It comes from The Greek and derives in turn from two very interesting terms: “the breaking of something” and the possibility of analyzing this.
So when everything is so messy that we don’t even know which foot to start walking on, there’s nothing better than analyzing each of our broken pieces to better understand them and then start the change. with us.
We know that this data may surprise you, but our brain has not evolved just to allow us to be happier and happier, in fact, each generation still has the same emotional and existential problems as the previous ones, our gray matter is not. a guru of happiness.
The brain has only one need: to ensure our survival. They derive, for example, from fears, those instinctive mechanisms that allowed primitive man to defend himself from possible predators. Well, today our fears are less concrete and more intangible: are we afraid of loneliness, failure, not being loved, not meeting certain expectations?
Add to this another essential aspect. According to a study published in the Journal of General Psychology, negative experiences leave a deeper mark on our brain than positive experiences, however, their goal is clear: to give us new information to survive better in the face of new life situations.
As a result, the brain perceives these moments of crisis and personal disorder as “small threats” to our own survival. Where’s your invitation? So that we can adapt better to our contexts and for that, sometimes there is only one way: change.
Few things dirty both our hearts and an emotional breakdown, the emotional and personal investment is so high in these situations that after these goodbyes we can only hide in the cocoon of our loneliness to hear the rumors of all these lost dreams.
Because we know that our brain doesn’t have that natural change to make us happy again, it just remembers several things it possesses: resilience, the ability to cope with adversity, and a great creative ability to find the best strategy to get out of our life at vital crossroads.
We offer simple guidelines that can help
When everything is disorganized, nothing better than sowing our daily pleasures, this may seem silly, but when our mind suffers an excess of?Past? And an extreme fear of the future? Nothing better than anchoring it to the present with simple and pleasant activities.
In conclusion, in reality people should not be so afraid of these vital moments of personal disorder, far from giving them a purely negative attribution, it is better to see them for what they are: temporary clouds that force us to open our colorful umbrellas. to deal with the storm.