There are people who feel a lot of discomfort when they feel good; we can even talk about a psychological allergy or a phobia inhabited and maintained by rarely conscious mechanisms, it is a state in which these people feel strange, a state from which they want to escape more than to explore, either because they had a difficult childhood, because they feel that they do not deserve it or because of their perfectionism, the truth is that they are unable to enjoy the joys and this state of well-being.
These people feel that they are at serious risk right now: the risk of getting used to the state in which they have arrived, when they feel that it will disappear in a short time, are unable to imagine life as more than a struggle or path of suffering, if this struggle or grinding of teeth does not exist, if the muscles are not tense , something’s wrong with them.
- In the past.
- This often happened.
- For example.
- When a person in a social class became part of another upper class.
- Especially if this promotion was unstable.
- The person used to show resistance to enjoying the privileges he had earned or that had been granted to him by chance.
- This story prevailed that one dies in the same social class in which he was born and that no change in that sense.
- Even for the better.
- Was not possible.
- It was a practical issue in many cases.
- But also mental.
In this sense, when some people don’t care, they become experts to find and focus their attention on them. The same goes for pain: when we feel great pain, we don’t notice the little ones. There are people who are constantly scanning their own bodies because they think it is not possible not to have a problem, however small, a small reason to adopt the idea that they have a serious disease, such as cancer, for example.
They are people who feel much more comfortable in the role of victims, oppressed or punching bags than in the role of winners, so we rarely see them celebrating something: they always find a pattern, resize or even create a pattern, so that we do not inspire others a feeling other than piety.
For them, mercy is the most powerful weapon to guarantee companionship, it is their comfort and they are not willing to give up that feeling, however great the joys on their horizon.
On the other hand, their role as a wandering and permanent victim gives him a valid justification, in his eyes (and they try to do the same in the eyes of others as well), so as not to fulfill certain commitments, in addition to limiting the pleasures of life. life. . They hide behind small pains or a constant struggle, which endures over time, for not doing certain favors.
How can I worry about others when I’m so bad, if I’m always the one who’s bad and the one with the worst and most tragic problems, what if I help that person and get used to it?
Fear, that’s the feeling. Fear of loneliness, fear of not being independent, fear of disappointing others, fear of returning to sadness, fear of facing aspirations that now seem impossible and that were once just a dream. Afraid to look down and see the size of the fall, afraid to look up and see how far you have to go up. Fear of facing a limit, being stupid or unsy intelligent. Fear of enjoying the joys of life and enjoying that feeling.
All these fears disappear, at least most fall asleep, when you don’t move too much, when you don’t enjoy much, when you don’t forese the joys of fear of opening a hole in which they will fall, making a very loud noise. Are fears appeased when we take a conservative position, when we don’t create expectations not to disappoint, something we’ve all done before to protect ourselves, including explicitly defending this attitude with our discourse?
“At the same time, we felt it was a smart strategy for life. But life is fickle and suddenly your cards change. All at the same time. Bye, move it.
Joys appear, they can only appear when we free ourselves and give ourselves to the experience, when we believe it, whatever our cards, we will know how to play with them and enjoy the game, it is not about survival, it is about living. It is a necessary step, otherwise it will be a very difficult day to assume that enjoying the joys and the positive will not compromise the riches that life holds for us.