There are those who do not care about taking care of you, but raise a high fence around you so as not to lose it, are relationships based on the ego of a co-pendent personality, where something as noble as affection is only demanded and distorted.
Fear of a loved one’s departure implies above all a lack of trust and sometimes the dangerous idea of considering the loved one a personal good. Any relationship based on a form of fear inevitably generates great suffering.
- There are those who do not know how to worry.
- Feel their sadness or the pain of so many disappointments; but remember: if they don’t consider you.
- Don’t forget to consider yourself.
- Listen to your heart and take care of yourself.
Strange as it may seem, there are many couples who maintain this type of relationship over time, we invite you to know the causes and know how to act properly, always protecting your self-esteem.
An interesting article published in the journal? The world of psychology defines two types of personality that illustrate very well this kind of relationship so unequal, but stable in time, where one controls and the other allows it. The basic features are:
The need for control and dependence are inhibitory elements that cause imbalance in the relationship, it is clear that romantic relationships are complex. But, in reality, we should say that complexity lies in the people themselves and not in the relationship itself.
There are people who need to control because that is the only way they conceive of love, others, even if they sincerely love, do not have the emotional capacity to demonstrate proper reciprocity, now it is important that in all our relationships we strive for “Excellence” above “demands”. To this end, it would be positive to implement the following strategies.
It is essential never to forget the importance of caring, of listening. As curious as it may seem, and according to a study published in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, young people have lower self-esteem than those who reach the age of 12. 60.
Good self-esteem, good self-care and good emotional management will remind you that those who do not consider you, who do not care for you, do not deserve your attention, let alone your sadness. take your joy elsewhere.
It is as if time put in place every piece of our self-esteem, as if the experience sculpted us to reach maturity with more aplomb and a better balance. From now on it is essential to be able to enjoy every cycle, every step. , walk more balancedly and strengthen that bond with oneself, called self-love.
Relationships that work and provide happiness are mature and emotionally conscious:
In conclusion, the feeling that someone asks us, controls us and does not consider us can extend beyond romantic relationships, family or friends can certainly behave in the same way.
Be attitude, defend your territory, take care of your rights and, above all, listen to the voice of your heart asking for respect, it is essential to take care of you and your self-esteem.
Main image courtesy of Claudia Tremblay.