There are people who have the lie as usual, in fact, according to statistics, almost all of us know one, these people in general do not recognize that they have this habit because it is socially condemned, but it is a fact that with so much practice, many have already achieved perfection. Moreover, internally, these people understand that lying can be a resource, just as valuable as others, if it does not harm anyone and if it cannot be discovered.
They may no longer be able to deceive us, because we have known them for a long time, but they have the ability to deceive others, especially those they have just met or those they know in a more circumstantial way, they know that the less details they give, the better; they know how to hide their faces so as not to be denounced by any expression, and they know that ambiguity is a great ally.
- On the other hand.
- It seems that those who get used to mixing reality and fantasy end up blurring even in their minds the boundaries between reality and what is not real.
- Are accustomed to treating both cases equally.
- Since both live their lives at the same time.
From a young age, we are often told that if we lie, will our nose grow like Pinocchio’s?And it is a very great sin not to tell the truth; however, it is also not uncommon for us to end up adopting the theory that a small lie “doesn’t hurt anyone,” which slightly changes the childish view that lying is always a great sin.
In this evolution, there are people who go beyond the limits of what would be considered normal and become uncontrolled liars. There are so many questions; “Do they do it on purpose?” “Do you realize what they say?”Unfortunately, in most cases, the answer is no. And the worst part is that if you try to help, we are rejected, because in that case we would further increase the lie.
There are not many scientific studies that can explain why a person suffers from mitomania, the mitomania is the pathological tendency or inclination to manufacture or transform the reality of explanation of all fact, however, there are many representations in cinema. For example, the film Taxi Driver, in which Robert de Niro plays a young taxi driver who writes a letter to his parents telling them that he is actually working on a secret government project and that he is engaged to a woman.
One story that was not born of fiction, but real, is that of Tania Head (her real name is Alicia Esteve). Tania was a young woman born in Barcelona who said that on September 11, 2001 she was on the 78th floor of the southern tower of the World Trade Center at the time of the explosions.
He even showed the alleged injuries sustained in the attack and recounted the facts in detail. In 2007, the New York Times revealed that it was a fraud, and later a famous Spanish television channel published a paper on the subject, titled “September 11”. Did I make it all up?. It has not yet been possible to find out why the girl lied: some say she should become famous, others because lying to her is not very different from the truth.
In addition to the cases depicted on the screen of cinema or those that discover the media, it is certain that one can come face to face with someone suffering from mitomania without realizing how can we detect that someone lies brazenly?it’s very difficult and we need outside information or details that don’t match the story to stop believing in words.
It’s good to know that a pathological liar has no control over what he’s saying, or the effects of his lies on others. Lies are widespread, disproportionate, persistent, and most of them are totally spontaneous and not premeditated.
For example, we can identify a person with this disorder if the person continually changes their stories, if they deny something they have said in the past, or if they do too much in their reports (as in the case where the taxi driver is a secret CIA agent). In addition, the person is likely to have a more dramatic version of what has already happened and live in an almost parallel reality, and may not be able to respond to the contradictions raised, justifying himself for reasons of faulty memory.
Why be careful with a pathological lie? Basically because it is based on a lack of control on the part of the person who invented it, a person with mitomania may even have problems or abnormalities of the brain and central nervous system, it would be no excuse to allow the person to continue lying, but it is something to be aware of when we come across a fantastic fantasy story.
Above all, we must pay attention to liars who do not consider the other, who see the other as they see the lie, one more way to achieve their goals, whatever they may be, are the most dangerous pathological liars. Because? Because they are fully aware of what they are saying and their lies contribute to enriching themselves, growing socially, and walking on others.
Lies are not good anyway, those suffering from mitomania are not forgiven of their disorder, but they still deserve our help: invite them to see a specialist and encourage them to follow the proper treatment.