The other day, talking to a psychologist friend, I questioned the fact that many children treat their parents poorly at home, while on the street they behave politely, are loved and valued; then he told me that the children are in a bad mood with their parents because they are sure they will be forgiven by them. And that explained a lot to me. I understand that there are people who know that they will be forgiven and therefore make mistakes that hurt us without measuring the consequences.
I believe that the fear of losing others is what makes us aware of the need to treat them well, to irrigate the relationships that are special to us, with love and affection, because we end up forgetting what is already customary, putting ourselves in automatic mode. all that is already a certainty in our lives. Unfortunately, this implies love and human interaction does not survive automatically.
- I also began to think about the complexity of forgiveness.
- Forgiveness is necessary.
- Because the weight takes away from us.
- Making us see more clearly the facts.
- As well as our role in all that has happened.
- Although there are situations in which forgiveness will be extremely difficult.
- Such is the pain that will lead us.
- Forgiveness will have to happen.
- Because we will have to leave with nothing else that stops those who have hurt us and must remain there?away.
- Nothing.
- Almost never again.
The thing is, forgiving all of each other’s mistakes will never make you rething your way of acting, making you someone who doesn’t change.
In the certainty that he will always be forgiven, the person has a free pass in his hands to continue living as he sees fit, without thinking of anyone else, so forgiveness does not require us to continue to keep others in our lives. but it reassures us in the decisions we will make regarding those who hurt us.
Many forget that there are people next door, who look to the future, without remembering to hold hands with what is already love in reality, if we end up forgiving everything, always, it takes us further and further away from ourselves, because then we give priority only to the other, suffocating who we are and feeling the need to keep close who should disappear from our forehead. Forgiveness is good, forgiveness is vital, because goodbye, so even if it hurts, it will be lighter and cleaner.