There are people like that, people who believe that their opinion is the only correct thing, who give us their indisputable opinion without our asking for it, people who vindicate their sincerity because they try to help others by telling them what they are supposed to hear.
These are profiles of people with a high ego who sell us their opinions as if they were absolute truths, always using the most scathing criticism or the most negative side.
- “You always find the wrong people.
- That person will fool you at the first opportunity.
- “”I say this for your sake.
- Is it better to get this lens out of your head because this idea is too big?”These things happen because you don’t have personality and because it’s clear you’ll never learn from your mistakes.
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“The truth cannot be confused with the opinion of the majority. –Jean Cocteau–
These types of sentences, rather than opinions, are harsh sentences, since many of us suffer more than once the effects of these situations, it is important to remember that while we all have the right to have an opinion, what is not conceivable is that they are used to damage, humiliate or denigrate. In addition, opinions are mere personal expressions, mere reflections of the emotional and cognitive world of the people who issue them.
However, as Leonardo da Vinci said, the worst human error is to believe in the deception of one’s opinions because there is no greater ignorance than those who believe that their personal assessments are universal truths, although this great genius has said it for so long, there are still people who believe that their opinion is the only one who is right.
Our opinions can often be our own currents. Let’s think for a moment: when someone thinks about us, they do it according to their own reality, their own experience and their own values, so far everything is normal, as expected and we understand, however, this process also applies to what psychology calls “distortion of attention” / “distortion of confirmation”.
That is, there are people who only perceive what they want to see, who merely observe only certain aspects to the detriment of others in order to make incorrect and extremely distorted judgments. Thus, the so-called rational choice theory also says That many of these heuristics that we apply to our thoughts and opinions correspond to simple “intuitions”, to simplistic assessments that make us make many mistakes.
All of this leads us, no doubt, to understand why there are people who believe that their opinion is the only one right, cling to their own mental currents to conclude facts as questionable as some of these ideas: “Women are weak by nature,” children need a steady hand to learn?or “anyone who practices a religion other than mine is a terrorist. “
Therefore, we must treat very carefully those who use their own opinions as if they were unique, exclusive and universal truths, because nothing defines a person as much as his own comments.
On the other hand, and we have also noticed it more than once, those who often use such decisive and harmful opinions tend to react very negatively, and even to take it personally, when we try to counteract their arguments using logical and rational arguments. These people do not accept or listen because their mental currents shape a very rigid thought. In fact, there are those who define these kinds of people like ours, trolls, real life.
We can and must all have an opinion on what we want, however, it is necessary to do so with respect and not with intent to commit a crime, no matter if it is a truth and if it causes pain, if it is useful and fundamental, if it is welcome.
We will therefore try to control these assessments that, even if we do not realize it, reach us directly through the cerebral amygdala, where emotions such as fear, hatred or anger predominate, where it believes in order to hurt, label or disparage others with the express desire to be above others.
“Don’t hurt others with what causes you pain. -Bouddha-
On the other hand, in this society where these strong but weakly held opinions remain, translated into phrases like “vote for me or will the world be in chaos?”, Buy this product and will you be happy? Or ‘skinny, dress like what, do this and you will succeed ”, you have to learn to practice a different kind of thinking, from a personal point of view.
We need to learn how to let go of our opinions a little so we can see what’s beyond. Before telling our friend, for example, that the dress she wears is horrible, you should first think that if she wears it, it’s because she loves it and her dress style is simply different from ours, at the same time, it’s also worth remembering the always useful filter of Aristotle’s three truths:
If the answer to these three questions is positive, we need to talk, so our opinion should serve to improve coexistence and ensure respect among people, thus creating more valuable and meaningful relationships.
Do you live with one of those people who thinks your opinion is the only just thing in your life?We hope this article has given you some perspectives to better address this situation.